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I mean I kind of came into this world facing challenges when my mother was pregnant with me she was hooked on
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Heroin at the time and when I came when she had uh given birth to me I wasn't
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allowed to actually leave the hospital for the first couple months because they were rehabbing my liver and my body to
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bring out the the drugs that were in my body yeah and um there were a couple of times where I didn't think I was
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actually going to make it so it got to the point where my parents actually you know my mom was on the streets my dad
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was a drug dealer my mom's a drug addict and when I was when it was time for me to go home nobody was actually available
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to pick me up so they called the emergency contact which was my grandmother and my grandmother came and
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got me and um you know my grandmother my mother is a white woman my father's a black man and this is at the time where
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it wasn't as popular as it you know it still can be struggles today but it was my parents went through a struggle being
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with each other because of making a biracial baby so when it's come time to
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come get me my grandmother came to get her Brown grandchild and um when it was time to sign me out since my father
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wasn't there to actually give me his you know sign the birth certificate I couldn't get the last name Turner so my
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mother was actually still married when she had had me with her um with my
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father but she was she divorced but didn't officially divorce I ended up with the last name Ortiz which is a huge
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part of my story because when I was my upbringing was uh challenging because my parents you know
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my dad was a drug dealer my mom was a drug addict but I was already not sure who I was as far as
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not blending in as a child I would go to the black community and I was not black enough to be black and there's a lot of
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bullying that actually goes on in the black community when you're not black everything that you do that's good is because you're light-skinned or you know
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it's an excuse on um you know you don't get your credit there and you don't fit in but then when
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I went with my white family um the good thing is that most of them were mixed with some type of Hispanic uh
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but I never felt like I was black and I never felt like I was white and I never felt like I was Spanish either so I was
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like I had to find myself at a young age and you know the last name Ortiz made people think I was Spanish so when I was
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you know growing up I grew up in Jersey City New Jersey and at the time I was always moving um we were all always
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trying to find a place to live my parents were on Section Eight and uh being on Section Eight in welfare you
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you basically move a lot because you're looking for the next cheap apartment that you can afford but at the same time
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my mom was on a a program for drug addiction and my father was a drug addict who had a warrant for his arrest
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so my dad couldn't get us an apartment when we were kids I couldn't really live with him because he was on a run his whole life and my mother she'll do good
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for about a couple months we'll be living at a particular place and then before you know it she's not showing up
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for her meetings and then Section 8 sticking away from us so I'm living with grandma again so I actually grew up in
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the projects downtown Jersey City I grew up right on the Hudson River with the view of New York City and um I said when
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I was about like five six years old things got a little more rough my mom's addiction started to increase to the
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point where she became abusive it was times where I would just get beat with bats
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um she even tried to stab me a couple times and wow um yeah my mom was very very abusive and she took her anger out
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on us you know my brother you know my brothers and my sister oh you have a brother and a sister yeah so my mom had
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two kids before she had me and they were Hispanic and then she had me and then two other boys with my father and um
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there were times when we grew up they kind of segregated the house so we were so poor we we had no food right when the
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first of the month came my mom took that money she she took the food stamp money and then made made a way to get cash for it
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usually what they do is if you get a thousand dollars of food stamp money you trade the thousand dollars of food stamp
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money for 500 cash so you may you're able to make a trade so we'll go hungry for the whole month
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and how did you what did you get by on you my father oh okay so what we had to
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do is we had to learn on how to find Dad we couldn't be with that all day because we had cops following us around Jersey
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City because they knew that we were going to see that so we had to play little tricks um there were times that
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would see we'll meet Dad at Burger King on Wednesday and Dad will come by you don't know what kind of car he's coming
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by and he drops the money off he told us he loved us and then he went back out um so that was my whole life so we had
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to make ten dollars stretch for two three days at a time with two little you know my well my little brother had
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another little brother but my parents couldn't get custody of him um because of their record becoming worse as I was growing up so
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it was to a point where around five six years old I started seeing abusement get really bad in my household and to tell
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you the truth I was so traumatized at the point where my memory even as a child I couldn't remember what happened
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to me so I'll go to school and teachers would ask how did you get that bruise on you or you know why didn't you show up
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yesterday and I I literally couldn't remember at the time that's PTSD exactly it's very bad PTSD so as I was
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continuously going I really I started so I struggled with self-identity but I also struggled with learning
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disabilities because when I was born since the drugs were in my system they
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created issues when it came down to my the development of my brain so they used
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to tell my dad that I would never be able to live without an assistance so when they when I was a kid they tried to
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put me in special ed with a an assistant teacher and they even thought that I was gonna you know I was gonna be autistic
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to the point where I'm gonna need assistance for the rest of my life well they screwed that up didn't they yeah a
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good thing yeah my father he didn't want to accept that he did not want to accept that at all so my father would anytime I
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spoke he'll stop me since I was a kid and he used to say Nate slowed down your words and pronounce this word right and
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I used to think I used to feel very annoyed anytime I used to do that because I used to be in front of like everybody in the neighborhood right like
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I said my dad was a drug dealer so he's speaking to me he's speaking to me in front of all the drug dealers and their kids and I was already embarrassed that
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I couldn't read or write so when I spoke he he would stop everything he's doing in a it can be a birthday party and
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everybody's looking at me my Dad's making me reponounce the word that I messed up as if he knew that I wanted to
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be like a speaker growing up it was just like a magical thing I felt like my dad was secretly just a wizard that was put in
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my life to guide me to be the man I am today because even when the times were going bad in my life my dad was the one
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that trained my brain he never allowed my brain to accept the fact that this is it this is really bad as it is he used
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to tell me he calls me pi he said paw someone out there got a worse than you right now
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um we'll get what we got food on our back we found a way to get food in our mouth and we got a roof over our head we're
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blessed and it was to the point where through my childhood it got thing as
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things got worse my mom she her drug addiction was getting worse until my my sister had
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kids as soon as my sister had kids she had something to change for she came a grandmother everything was going good
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but then it trickled down to my sister having drug addiction oh wow so my sister starts losing her mind she had a
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baby had epilepsy and then my sister was charged with the murder of her daughter
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which was my niece so my sister had two boys and a girl one was three and a half
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then we had I think a two-year-old and then a newborn and my sister killed a newborn so every day I would wake up I
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watch my nephews and then after school I'll take care of my nephews I was around like nine ten years old at this time and now the state of New Jersey one
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day came took my sister took her boyfriend my brother assaulted the cameraman from the news channel the New
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York news kept on coming to the house my brother went to jail my mother relapsed on drugs didn't see her for about two
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months after that and then the state of New Jersey took my nephews away so I woke up and everything was taken away from me so it was to the point where I
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had to figure out what I was going to do with my life it's an early start on that one exactly I was
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like I have to do something with this so every day I would go to school and everybody in the school knew what
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happened it was all over the news it was breaking news it was on newspapers so people didn't want to come near me or
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people thought I was like a part of a killer family and all these you know weird things but I had this one uh
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counselor his name was Mr Fernandez and he was this Cuban guy I used to wear college shirts with a gold chain he had
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his hair coming out and he was someone that people were intimidated by and he came up to me and said you got to come
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to my office after school you have to speak to me and I told him I'm not speaking to you because my whole life I
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kept these things that were going home uh basically going on at home secret I don't want nobody know I'm
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going through has everybody thought that I was this kid that just had some learning disabilities and I actually
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transformed my pain into laughter and I became a Class Clown and I want to
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motivate my friends but nobody knew I was going through this at home so one day after like two weeks of him harassing me
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I'm like look talk to my little brother he needs it I don't need it and because where I'm from is you know
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it's it's you're soft if you go talk to somebody it's not it's not something
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that is you know um normal in my neighborhood like oh you have to go see a therapist like oh you're gonna and then you get joked on
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so at the time I'm like I'm not gonna see no counselor and then I remember one day I went home we had no food we had no cable and then
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I went to go take a shower and the hot water is off I can't find my mom my dad you know he's he's he's trying to
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figure out how to make money to feed me and he's on the streets and I sat down I'm like all right if I don't do
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something about this in my life then my then I'm gonna end up like my sister like my brother or I'm gonna be a drug
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dealer and I used to think my dad was the smartest man I've ever met in my life and I used to it used to upset me
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I'm like this man is the smartest man I would go to school I'll learn something about science and I'll try to come tell him when I saw him he'll tell me
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everything about it but then I'll do he'll tell me about the law history how doorknobs are made and I used to say Dad
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you're the smartest man I've ever met in my life in the back of my mind I used to say I want to be like my dad but I want
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to do it legally yeah that was the goal that's Until I Met You by the way I I
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was happy when I when I came across your work and I told my dad about you because my whole life my goal was to try to find someone smarter than him
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oh maybe I'm not I was like Dad I found somebody so I
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came home and I took a piece of paper I had this notebook and that piece of paper I said okay on the top of the piece of paper I said how can I escape
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Jersey City question mark so I started to think well maybe I can become a teacher maybe I can
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do this maybe we can do that so then I set out the goal and then before the then after I set out the goal I took
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like a ladder and I made a little ladder of steps to be able that need to be taken care of or I need to take to be
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able to make it there so one of the first things I said was like okay how can I go to a high school that can
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avoid these gangs in this neighborhood because all my friends are in gangs and I don't want to you know people getting stabbed every day I was like okay how do
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I do that I want to go to private school okay how can I go to private school and then it hit me we had the number one
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basketball school in the country and we it was ran by a man named Bob Hurley who got inducted to the Hall of Fame the
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same year Michael Jordan did one of the top basketball coaches of all time and Hurley is a Miller he's like a military
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guy he's a guy that you don't your scare demons laugh around him because he had you he took the best athletes in the
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world the best basketball players in the world and he straightened them out when Team USA was having a problem with Kevin
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Garnett they brought Hurley there to be able to straighten him out right he was Hurley was the only one that most people
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listened to so I'm like I want to play for Hurley and if I played for Hurley everybody that played for Hillary went
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to college 100 wow so I said if I play for Hurley Hurley had five to six people get a full
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division one scholarship out of his program a year so I'm like if I play for Hurley I'm gonna make it in life if you go in my
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town or even on most of the most of the United States you tell people that you play for Bob Hurley the chances of
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someone knowing him is very high which means that I can get hired somewhere so I got really excited I wrote down become
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a saint Anthony Friar get a scholarship so I'm super happy about it now I took that goal
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because that goal is going to lead me to the biggest goal that I want to be when I grow up and then I said okay what can I do to start on this today
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so I went to school the next day Mr Fernandez in the morning looking for me so I need to talk to you you need and I said you know what you're 100 correct I
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need to talk to you so he was blown away he was he was like oh you need to talk to me and I said look I'm going to make
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you a deal I'll tell you everything you want to hear I tell you everything I never told people under one condition he
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said what's that I said you have to come every morning and you have to open up this gym at six in the morning you have
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to catch my rebounds he said what I said you have to catch my rebounds and I'll tell you everything
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you want I want to work on my jump shot because if I work on my basketball game I can go to play for Anthony's he goes
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you know what I'll make you a deal I'll do that but the day that you miss it every day after that you have to come
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after school and you have to sit in my office I was like oh man I don't know if I want to make that deal
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then I was like you know what you got it and I shook hands with him the next morning I went there and I started
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working on my game he came to the basketball gym the next morning and I he came with this tank top high shorts high
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socks and headband and he had this go chain in his gold wrist
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um uh bracelet and I'm like this guy's a clown he thinks he I hope he doesn't want to play me because I'm I'm gonna
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destroy him um I had something else come this guy destroyed me he threw elbows at me he
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made Moves on me I'm I was blown away I couldn't tell the whole you know the whole school about Miss Fernandez is a
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good basketball player then I come to find out they're like oh you didn't know Mr Fernandez was one of the best he's in a he's in the New Jersey Basketball Hall
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of Fame one when I came in he had the newspaper and he had a guy named Mike Rosario that
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just got a scholarship to play for Rutgers he takes the newspaper he puts it up before I came in the gym he said
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go to that newspaper and read it so I read it then I'm like okay let's go he goes no no go read it again so I read it
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I'm like okay he goes now I want you to read it one more time but I want you to instead of saying Mike Rosario put Nate
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Ortiz and besides Mike's face there imagine your face
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and every morning he did that and then when another player got a scholarship from like he made me do it he made me do it and it became to a position where I
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felt as if I were already us Anthony fryer so summertime comes I go I'm all over the
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streets because my dad is moving my mom is moving so I'm in all different neighborhoods so I went to every
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basketball court in Jersey City to play in every League to play against the best kids one day Bob Hurley comes he sees me
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play I was in sixth grade I played in the High School league and he said hey man he said Hey kid you're
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good you're pretty good what do I know you from I'm like what do you know me from you know you don't know me and I
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was shaking because it's Bob Hurley and he goes who's your father and so my father's Nate Nate Turner he
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goes oh yeah I arrested your father I said what he said well I used to be a
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parole for sure and your father I was on your father how's your father doing today now I'm like I don't want to tell
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him the truth because I don't want him thinking I'm you know this bad kid but then I knew that being honest was the
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best way to go I'm like Oh my dad's still you know doing what he has to do take care of us so he looks around he goes
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come next week to the gym I have a camp now I already know about his Camp each year he does a basketball camp and he
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gets sixth grade seventh grade eighth graders it's kind of prospect but also to see who's the best in the in the
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tri-state area so he's like all right you can come so I went to the camp now the Camp starts at
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eight o'clock I got there at six so one thing since I was a kid that I knew that I had to take advantage of I didn't have
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the money for the gear I didn't have money for the lessons but I can outwork you and I'll outwork the janitor so I
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got that a janitor gets there he's like what do you and now sit in front of the gym he's like the camp doesn't start to as I know I'm gonna wait so as I waited
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the assistant basketball coach let me in pull me to the side and goes where do I know you from I'm like you don't know me
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he's like who's your father I said well Nate turn he goes I used to be your father's gym teacher so I'm like oh my
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God my dad is all over town everybody knows this guy so then he goes do you have breakfast with you I said no I
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don't have breakfast he said Mom and Dad didn't give you money I said I don't have money he said well do you want breakfast I
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said no I just want the ball so I can shoot before these kids get here so I can destroy these kids today
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so he gave me the ball I got an out every day I went and I went two hours early to shoot I became the MVP of the
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summer league see when you go to summer league they give you a t-shirt I took that T-shirt and wear every day so when
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I was done with the lead we won the championship they moved me up to eighth grade but when we were done with the league I was going around the city telling all the drug dealers because
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each section of my city there's drug dealers that usually really run the courts there they're sitting on the
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corners and uh the drug dealers protected me from other neighborhoods coming over and hurting me
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so I went to my neighborhood I'm like I got a scholarship they've got a scholarship no I didn't
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get a scholarship but I knew if I told him I got a scholarship that means I have to I apply more pressure and I have
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to make the scholarship come true I can't be a liar that's a good reverse psychology I did
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that in sixth grade and nobody believed me everybody laughed so I had proof my proof was look I got the look at the
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shirt I got this Anthony shirt and um so for sixth grade I'd never missed a day of school so I
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kept my deals so when I was seventh grade coming back now things are getting a little rough at home now actually and
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I never told nobody this but going into seventh grade year was actually the first time I've ever seen my mom get high and that was devastating because
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when I was growing up I didn't know Mom was getting high um I just thought my mom has my mom's
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bipolar and she has multiple personality disorder so I'm working with like five six different versions of my mother yeah
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that's tricky it's very tricky so this is when I started to really want to understand the psychology outside of the
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books with experience so I remember one day I went home and there was my mom's
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doorknob was broke and I was trying to get you know let her know I was leaving and then when I looked through the
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doorknob hole I witnessed my mom you know getting high with her husband at the time and um and that's when things
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started to get bad so going to seventh grade things start to go downhill my dad made sure that Brandon and I my little
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brother Brandon and I we stood together nobody could separate us because because my whole family was getting separated all the time but Brandon and I never
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separated he's like a twin he looks like me I call him my twin but one of the hardest things for me was life was hard
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for me as a kid but this guy was he was eight years old you know he's three years younger than me so I knew that I had to be the bigger
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brother and develop this mindset I call it the bulletproof mindset nothing can stop it I had to develop this mindset to protect
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him you know so I go back to school and immediately when I went to school I
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wanted to know why mom was I wanted to know why behind everything so I'm like why is my mom getting high why is my dad drug dealer why is my dad not taking his
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knowledge and be so then why why is my brain sometimes I come to school and I can read but sometimes I can't I notice
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I couldn't read after 12 p.m after lunch what is it is it the food right so I started adding all these
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things up so when I went back to school immediately I started to experience uh a
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change in the what was interesting to me and what wasn't I became very serious with life I stopped becoming a Class
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Clown I wanted to get good grades and I remember when I went home my my stepfather went to prison that year my
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stepfather came home from prison he was a different man I want and he looked like a superhero this guy was built like the Hulk so
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immediately I noticed that my mother would yell at him he was he won't react I noticed that he was not an alcoholic
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oh he wasn't drinking at the time what did what did he do I want to know what happened
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so I asked him what happened what did he do differently and he told me to come with him the next morning at 7 A.M so I
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woke up the next morning at 7 A.M I went to the I went to him went to the park and it was like seven other guys there
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that just came home from prison and they're doing and they put me on the pull-up bar I said okay do some pull-ups
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now I was always overweight when I was a kid and there was no way I can do a push-up or pull-up but
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even though it is obvious I couldn't do it they encouraged me so I saw the power of
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the mind immediately the incur you can do it now if I had this big strong guy tell me I can do it I can do it so I
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noticed that if I told my mind I can do something I can do it and as we were working out 15 to 20 minutes in that workout these guys start talking about
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their feelings I'm like what the hell is going on here these tough guys are talking about how
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they're sad and how they're they're gonna make something out of their life and then I noticed myself as soon as
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like 25 30 minutes was starting to cave in I started to notice myself feel grounded for the first time in my life
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when I walked away I noticed that my thoughts were more aligned I noticed that my feelings were more managed and I
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and I couldn't wait to share it with somebody so I went to immediately my friends that were in gangs and I tried
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to get them I convinced them to come to the basketball with me at six in the morning so I got 15 of my friends that were all
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on the streets that come with me in the morning in seventh grade eighth grade they never missed a day of school they
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never got back they never got in trouble 14 of them today have families they're out of jail they went to high school and
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they they're they're successful only one of them are in jail right now so I saw the power of putting your mind
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to something moving the body and then coming together and encouragement now we lose the apartment oh
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now we go to Red Cross so in the morning I go to school with a laundry bag and I
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got a laundry bag deodorant in there a toothbrush and probably leftover dinner
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from last night if I had and I came to school the nurse used to allow me and my brother to dump our laundry bag of all
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stuff because then after school we have to walk probably like two hours to Red Cross sit at Red Cross and then wait for
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a donation to come in so they had donations come in that were going that were being distributed to different things they had and then there was
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leftover donations that they'll buy me a room so when they brought me a room that room can be two hours the other way wow
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so we did this in the winter we did this all year round and um and then sometimes the rooms have bed bugs so we knew how
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to we knew how to work with bed bugs we had an agreement with bed bugs we made like little little ways to not get bit
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and it was just crazy so I started to lose a little bit of Hope as if I wasn't going to get a
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scholarship from Bob Hurley usually by 8th grade you get the scholarship didn't get anything one day I go to I'm in
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school I'm going to the bathroom my brother goes nay nay I'm like what he goes come here I ran over he goes Bob
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Hurley's daughter is my teacher her first day was today his daughter is my
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teacher I can tell him about you I'm like are you serious right now so after school I go get my brother from picking
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him up and he goes this is my brother this is my brother your dad has to give him a scholarship she goes hi I'm
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Melissa and I'm like oh hi she goes my your brother keeps talking about you now my brother since we were missing so much
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school my brother was left back two grades so my brother is like 5 10 in third grade wow so he was it was looking
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but he was so smart that Melissa fought for him to be pushed back to his regular
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grade so she she changed his life but at the same time she convinced her father
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to come to one of my games the date the only game that he was able to come to was a summer league in the
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middle of the ghetto and it was I'd never imagined Bob really coming to that part of the town but I mean he ran the
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town he can go any part he wants I remember the day like it was yesterday our league was so broken that the eighth
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graders were paying seniors in high school so it was drug dealers I was running the leagues because what drug
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dealers did they found out how to get recreational money to run a recreational league but then also put a little money
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in their pocket so one day I remember I'm warming up and I'm playing this kid that has a division one scholarship I'm
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in eighth grade now this park that we're playing in I used to sleep in this park because sometimes Red Cross didn't come
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through or sometimes mom locked the door and I couldn't get in the house so I had to find somewhere to go so I used to
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tell my brother if we want to be successful in life you got to be able to really like work
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for it to the point or are you willing to sleep in a basketball court to become a basketball player I used to make up
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these stories to keep his imagination from crumbling because if he crumbled I crumbled so we used to we sometimes we
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had to sleep in that park or stay there till like three four in the morning then wait in front of the school until the janitor comes and then go inside
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so I used to shoot in this park with no lights so this was my Park we're warming up I'm like I have to play
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this college kid I didn't know you see a white Audi come convertible Bob Hurley pulls up
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people go Nate Hurley's here everybody told me at that moment I felt in my heart that this in my gut this was my
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moment I had 55 points and I earned the full scholarship to play for Bob Hurley that day yeah good when we did that
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my mom lost it even more to the point where my dad says my mom started to
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really beat us to the point where my dad was like all right I can't I'm gonna have to
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risk my my freedom so you guys gonna have to stay with me now so we used to stay
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um as soon as I got in high school we started staying in a hotel right in front of the Holland Tunnel and
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um every day at 11 o'clock we were waiting for my dad hopefully made enough money so we can pay for the room but now
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it was Nate take this bottle go to the car
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and make sure he gives you twenty two hundred dollars well Nate take this bottle drive here
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make sure that this person gives you 3 500 and don't let them leave if they don't give you all the money
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so now it was me having to do something that I was not built for I grew up with all these people on the streets but in
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my heart since I was a kid I felt like I was not here to do I just wasn't built for it my brother was my cousins are for
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me if me and you had a fight which I try to avoid all I can I'll cry after and give you a hug and
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talk to you like we should never do that again and then you're bleeding with a broken hose and I'm like don't do that to me
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again please let's not do that again so things were getting worse as far as that you know that was going and then now I'm
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in St Anthony's I got the full scholarship and then the school found out I was homeless and then I was busted
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because they found me gumming back and forth from the hotel because the hotel was only a couple blocks away from school
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and then the whole school tried to help me to give me like you know granola bars during the day and stuff and it was it
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was really nice of them to do but then I knew I had to figure out how to get a college how to get to college so long
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story short when I was in high school they started a football program and Hurley was like Nate you're six three
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you're 240 you're very athletic once you try to play football they're going to start a program I'm like I'll never play
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football and her exactly I think all professional tight ends play football I mean play basketball and they became
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great tight end so I gave it a try and um first I was the first division one football player in school history
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and I had 25 scholarships I was a number two Titan in uh in the state of New Jersey I made Allstate I was a um I made
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the new uh the New Jersey All-Star team and um but football really wasn't what I
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wanted to do it was my way to get to college I got a full scholarship I went to Delaware and they said you know the
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um the counselor is like you should just study Communications football players come they study Communications easy play
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football go to the NFL and I was like no no no I want to study Bachelor science I want to study movement science I want to
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know why the body looks like this and why muscles hurt and they're like Nate you can't do that only three percent of
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um student athletes go through that program and actually finish and and he kind of like came lean over he said uh
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you gotta learn disabilities you know that's gonna be really difficult as soon as he said I couldn't do it I'm like all right now I'm going to do it just to
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show you I can do it so I end up going through that becoming one of the top students in that and uh
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and then I blew up in football I was the first Titan to do a lot of things in school history and then one day we have
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four NFL Scouts there then they checked my weight they're not allowed to talk to me as being an athlete but I knew that
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we all knew that I was going to be predicted probably fourth round and um I remember I was in football practice
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they were there my coach was showing me off and he was doing all the plays to favor me and then I remember one play on
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blocking because I'm tied in a block and I and I catch I'm blocking and my teammate ran right into my spine and I
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felt tingling going down my legs and I said okay something's not right so I ran over to the coach and as a coach my legs
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are tingling and he says shut the hell up and get back in there so I go back in and then
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it was a play where I had to act like I was blocking the defensive end and then if the linebacker comes I get off the defensive end I run and I catch the ball
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because the linebacker is not there and that's exactly what happened linebacker went I went but as I turned I lost
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feeling in my legs the ball hit my helmet I collapsed and I was rushed to the emergency room you blow a disc yes
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well five yes yes and uh L4 was also uh
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a damaged L4 as well now I'm in a wheelchair worst pain in my life and
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they want to give me drug painkillers but I'm scared to take drugs because my parents are addicts so I'm like no no I
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can't take that and then um and then I start to cry and I knew that my chances
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of you know the spinal doctor was trying to do emergency surgery he's like you got to go to surgery and I'm like I'm not going to surgery I'm not I don't
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want surgery um and then as I'm sitting there I started to cry and my teammates came two
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of my teammates came and we all knew my career was over and then I started to laugh and they're
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like what is so funny and I'm like oh my God I can I'm not supposed to be a football player man
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this is going to be another chapter in my book yeah and I'm gonna Inspire the world from this so they're like oh the
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painkillers are kicking in like no they're not I didn't take them so I went home and I
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went through a deep depression because now I did not know who I was without being an athlete yeah
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my whole life I had back issues and when I was 16 I remember I came
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across somebody for the first time in my entire life that I said that is me I
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couldn't find that in basketball I couldn't find that in football you find a nice basketball player I'm not six eight you find a nice football player
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they don't they can't relate to me they grew up in the middle class so one day I was online and I was always
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trying to search for answers to dig deeper into the science I was learning at school and this freaking guy kept on coming up
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and it was annoying me because this guy did not look like he knew what he was talking about this guy didn't look like a doctor I'm programmed to look like to
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look for people that are doctors and this guy's name was yo Elliott Elliott Hulse yes okay
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I came across oh yo Elliott at 16. I didn't want to watch his videos I'm going to be 100 honest with you because
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of the programming I had this guy was jacked looked like an older version of me and
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I'm like I don't want to talk I don't listen to this guy he doesn't know what he's talking about and then one day I couldn't get rid of this back pain my
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whole life I had back and I have rheumatoid arthritis could not get rid of it and I'm like
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he had a video saying why your back is jacked up so I avoided it for like five months every time I was looking up back pain I
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was like don't listen to this guy so one day I go click the video and this guy goes the reason why your back is jacked
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up is because your guts are jacked I mean messed up um I was like that kind of what the hell
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did he just say so I rewinded it he goes here's some signs that you know you got is messed up farting bloating
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and I'm like oh my God that's me so I started digging in all his videos and as I'm watching him my ego did not
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win acceptance information but there was this gut feeling this intuition in my in my gut and my heart
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that not only that I have to dig deeper but a sense of finally I found me I
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found who I am yeah the golden thread so when I was growing up I was always
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trying to figure out you know I'm half black half white who am I I can't rap I can't relate to these
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rappers I can't relate to nobody and I'm motivating I was always growing up on the streets of Jersey City where
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you can catch me motivating you to stop drinking so we can you know have our minds straight for tomorrow to escape
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this ghetto and when I saw yo Elliot speak I'm like that's me that that that that
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guy is me so then I want to know where the hell did you learn this information from
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I said who where did you learn this from I'm in school I'm not learning this right now
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dug deep and he had a video of saying something with my mentor
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and then there I see Paul check I see Yo Elliott and Paul so I click on the video
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and then I didn't hear a word you said I didn't I wasn't hearing anything you said yet the
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video just started what made me want to listen more is I studied body language because when I used to come out my
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bedroom I used to have to know what mama had that day yeah do I have Mom that's going to beat the hell out of me is Mom
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High drunk I can tell by what she's doing by hearing and then when I looked
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at her I looked at her shoulders her eyes I saw how yo Elliott was standing next to you
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and I said this is the guy I look up to but I can just tell by his body language that he's all ears with this guy and I
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don't care what the hell this guy has to say I'm listening to everything he says so I listened to the video and then
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that's when I go deep on your work then I'm like oh this guy's a wizard [Laughter]
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that and I said dad I found someone smarter than you
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I was like okay I want to get the the book that you had how to eat movie be healthy and I was so broke I was 16 at
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the time you should have just emailed me I'd have given it to you you know what's great I even have access to email we only had access to email in the morning
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when I lived in a hotel but I didn't even know what email was I was so out of that world and as I'm growing up I was
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trying to get how to eat movie be healthy but tell you the truth you gave so much information
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that you made I've read 45 000 books that you made but you have to
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put the effort in a lot of people who are not willing to put the effort in to look in your blogs actually sit down and
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watch a 30 minute video I did all of that I have notebooks of your your work so
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I was watching the video you made and you said that you call it you said that you there's only so much fast food
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information you can give right and you kind of changed my perspective on investing into education yeah good
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um but at the same time you also said in one of the videos that it's your way of
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giving back to the universe and I'm like I don't think this guy understands that he's actually getting me through what
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I'm getting going through for free and I can't one day I I just couldn't wait to
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thank you one day that's why I do it that's why I do it I you know how many thousands of hours I've put in there's
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over 750 videos on my channel you know My Philosophy has always been
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to be an information Santa Claus you know Santa comes down the chimney and he leaves you something nice
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and he doesn't charge anything just like you're saying I've been through a lot of hard times myself and and there's always
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been keep people in my life that
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somehow managed to teach me something or give me something
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because I'd had so many letters from people saying I can't afford to take your course I can't afford to buy your book I can't afford to go to The
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Institute or whatever so I just felt that it was my responsibility
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spiritually to the rest of myself because philosophically I believe that there's
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only one being that exists and that's what we call God
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and so I felt obligated to make sure that anyone that could access video
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could at least find Solutions or know what questions to ask
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their doctors or their therapists so that they could have a rational approach to what was
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going on to begin to understand it I mean I've done videos on everything obviously you've watched a lot of them so I watched them over and over again
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yeah well you know video like a thousand times well you probably got a better education than you
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would have gotten in a university well that that's the interesting thing when I when I actually start to go to school I
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had a lot of challenges with my professors because then I started to notice oh
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the program is deep yes there's a deep programming going on and I was never one
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to hold back the the best thing about the information is I applied it as soon as I started to apply one of the first
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things is a fungal infection I had I mean I lived in mold houses I live and I
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I studied the hell out of your fungal infection information I applied it and I saw my attention disorder leave yes my
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depression leave these pimples on my face disappear yeah fungal mycotoxins
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are extremely toxic they're some of the most dangerous chemicals in the world I
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don't know if you know this but they use them in military Warfare I actually saw a video Once doing some research
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where they had extracted the fungal mycotoxins and made a liquid out of it
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and they had a rat in a glass box and the scientist dropped one drop of this
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liquid from fungal mycotoxins and it killed the rat instantly the rat just fell over and dropped dead with one drop
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of fungal mycotoxins and they're considered to be some of the most dangerous chemicals in the world and
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some of the most sick people I've ever had to work with were people that didn't realize they had a fungal infection in
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their house mold right mold yeah so when I went through the the the the the stuff like
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uh the school as I'm going through school I already in my mind when my career was over in the back of my mind I
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said I have to figure out how to do what Elliott Halls did I want to be the next
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yo Eliot because I saw him turn his dream into green is what I call it
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yeah turning his dream into making a beautiful business but also helping millions of people I graduated college
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now when I graduate college my dad has an he has an apartment but he has it in one of the worst neighborhoods in New
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Jersey it was in Newark New Jersey and it was a it was a very very it was a scary neighborhood that I I've been
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there I know exactly what you're talking about you know what strange the uh
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I'm trying to remember 1988 it was either the men's or the women's
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Olympic trials and the marathon were held there and I was the therapist for both the
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men's and the women's and I had 10 athletes that I coached make it to the Olympic trials
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and the first thing I noticed I could not find food worth eating anywhere and there was a huge problem with
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obesity there and forgive me for saying but I felt like I was in a [ __ ] I'm like who in the hell would live here no
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no you gotta listen I feel the same way why did they put the freaking Marathon
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trials here I mean these poor athletes are I remember I went to a restaurant and this is a long time ago and the
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waitress is a huge fat lady and she brought me a bunch of white bread and I said I'm just curious do you guys even
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have brown bread or whole grain bread and she looked at me and she said what's that I'm like oh my God we're in big
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trouble so we start to happen in New Jersey is that on the Hudson River you have Jersey City and Hoboken and then
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you have Bayonne on the other side what happens is it started to be I call it baby Manhattan so people started to build
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brand new housing and buildings on the Hudson River so people that went to New York that was it was too expensive to
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get an apartment come over to New Jersey and get an apartment for cheaper and it's new right so what that did is it
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raised the rent on people that were you know didn't have money and they all started to move back and a lot of them
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ended up in Newark now not to say everybody but Newark was always a struggling City when it came down to
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that and it was a city that I didn't like going to because like I said in Jersey City I was protected the drug
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dealers and the Gang guys knew who I was and they protected me this neighborhood they don't care who you are so when I
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graduated college I'm like where am I going to live I didn't even think about these things because I was planning to go to the NFL
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and my girlfriend's father pulls me to the side I mean uh tells my girlfriend Hey listen you're a good kid
41:10
and I want I know you're going to be successful so you can come live with us in Washington Heights so they had this
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apartment price 700 square foot apartment in Washington Heights but if when you enter his home it makes it he
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made it feel like you were in Tribeca he redid everything but Washington Heights is one of the worst neighborhoods in New
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York right so I go from one ghetto to another but here's the thing number one when I went there I always had clean
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clothes I had heat I had hot water and this was in 2017 and I knew it was
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somewhere I was going to go that had internet and it was in New York City I can get on a train and train people you
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know you know it's strange you're saying this was only 2017. that's what is this 20 20 22 five years ago five years ago
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it's it's it's a very interesting thing for me because you know I'm 61 so 2017
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for me feels like five minutes ago yeah you know what what's coming to me is is
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that um your Destiny's Child it's just like the unfolding it's it's
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in your life it's moving quite fast how old are you Nate I I turned 29. you know
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it's like you're living a very accelerated life because
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to go from there in 2017 to having your first place to
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have clean clothes in a shower and a stable environment to
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where you're at now is is I mean that's like getting shot out of a cannon yeah yeah I I say my whole life
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though I use my imagination and I never accepted I never I knew I was going to
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do what I'm doing today so if it feels like I was shot out of Canon but at the same time it felt like
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I was this interview right now between you and I I did this already in my mind a thousand times when you were
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interviewing other people I imagine that anytime your guests responded that was me I imagine myself sitting there I
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really did that my mind was something that got me out of all of this but at the same time there's um something that
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I noticed side effects from this as well so as great as it sounds that I was doing the side effects is it's hard for
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me to sit down on a Monday after accomplishing everything and not doing something else
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working on something yeah right it's hard to put a rain on yeah because I I I
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became obsessed and not a I'm you know what yeah I became obsessed with making sure
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I I'm scoping out the person that I want to become I'm doing something to make sure that happens yeah well at your age
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that's not normal there's a lot of Drive uh when you're that age to
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create your identity and and have a sense of who you are and to if you're
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healthy to do something in the world uh I got news for you that's going to go on for a while
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all right listen you gotta tell me to my partner well you know the the thing is you know
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I when I was in the the age you're at now I was like a like a a literal ball
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of fire I was intensely driven um
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I came to the realization what I was here in the world to do the day I became the trainer of the army boxing team
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and then had the experience of of seeing how my knowledge
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and my therapy that I did for the fighters enhanced their performance and and the
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coaches and saying whatever the hell you're doing it's working because you know the injury
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rate dropped down dramatically and their athletic ability improved dramatically
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and I was in fights with the coaches all the time because they kept wanting to do stupid stuff and I kept having to try to
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explain to them why that wasn't working and they would say how can you say that
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to us do you know how many champions we've created and you know what I would say to them I have a more important question you
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should ask how many of you ruined along the way that the only reason I'm bringing this
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up is because you know I can look at your story and I can find myself in your story
45:33
and I can see the intensity
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but I can save you a lot of time there's a reason I teach working in and there's a reason I did Tai Chi every
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day for 18 years there's a reason I haven't been missed a day of work due to illness in over 40
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years because however much fire you have it takes that
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much water to keep you in balance basic Alchemy so if you push yourself so hard
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that you get to the point where you start losing your sense of Center your sense of focus and your sense of
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connection to things that aren't meaningful
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and what I mean by that is it's very easy at your age
46:24
to keep having to do something that's meaningful that produces a result that gets you somewhere but that takes
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tremendous Focus and what happens is your mind starts to get tired and your body
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is what's carrying your mind so if your body if your mind is tired your body's tired
46:44
and so what happens is you start losing your creativity you start losing your enthusiasm
46:50
and your girlfriend will want to take your phone away and your computer away and your books away
46:57
and get you to just look into her eyes and be present with what's right in front of you so that you can see God
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instead of reading books about it and it took me a long time to learn that
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so you know I think if there's anything I can give you at this time in your life
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always ask yourself how much water do I need to balance my fire so that I'm not
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burnt out my mind is clear and I have the time to make
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the important decisions that not only give me the success that I
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want and help give me the ability to help other people but don't take me away from
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contact with the people that I'm here to love and that love me
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because if you get too far and I've done it I lost contact
47:52
with my son Paul Jr and I lost contact with my first wife because I was like you I was too focused
47:59
and anybody that got in my way was a pain in the ass because I was on a mission
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and so I ended up with a wounded son who
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Thought I Loved work more than I loved him but similar to you coming from a
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rough family environment and parents that often didn't have much money
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I was focused on getting away from that and so in my mind I had created this story that
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as long as I make enough money that my family can have a nice home and and
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shoes and clothes and things that upset me because I didn't get
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compared to my friends as a kid that I was doing the best thing for them so I ended up living in a nice condo in
48:53
the nice part of town in a wealthy part of town making lots of money but
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the people that love me only got to see me study and work and study and work and study and work
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and so it caused pain because they felt that I
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loved my work and other people more than I loved them and so it though some of these are hard
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lessons to learn especially when you come from a background like yours because you're you get to the point where you realize
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that the success you have is because you did the hard work to get there you made the goal and so the next Target is the
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next goal because the mind says that's what I've got to do to be safe but in reality what happens is you find
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yourself financially safe but losing connection to your heart so I end up
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going to New York City and as I'm in New York City every day I woke up and I made a video and I had no job I had nowhere
49:52
to go I had nothing my girlfriend went to acting class her father was a hard-working man and a great father who
49:57
took care of his kids who worked his butt off every day and I would go to Starbucks every day because they have
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Wi-Fi I get their coffee and then I'll get their um bathroom code all for two dollars in
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a cup of water for two dollars so but I will put myself in that position to make myself feel like I was going to work so
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I used to sit at Starbucks and I will write down a goal every day and my goal
50:20
was to become a Czech practitioner well you did it yeah and I was like if I become a Czech practitioner I can change
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a lot of things so I start to apply I got into uh hlc one I
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started to apply these things then I got the the um more all the courses you know the program design I applied all this stuff
50:39
to my coaching making videos people requested you know help I would go all over New York City help people but I
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applied all my coaching in the holistic lifestyle coaching formula good nobody
50:51
has ever seen that and then I bring my enthusiasm to it and then I started changing people's lives and it was
50:57
getting to a point where doctors were calling me asking me to work with their obese clients before
51:03
they do bypass surgery like can you help them before we do the bypass surgery that was nice of them to ask motion don't ask they don't want you to win
51:09
exactly so out of nowhere one day I get a phone call from Goldman Sachs vice
51:14
president his name was Steve Silverman and he thinks I would be a great leader and the new person to run his business
51:20
in Westchester New York I was 24. and they and I had to figure out how to grow a business I never did it before so I
51:26
got there early every day and I just studied on how to run a business I turned into being a very successful
51:32
business because I was applying my check practitioner uh you know
51:38
knowledge and I was changing people people come back pain never looked at their digestive tract people come with
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attention just a huge rise in attention to certain kids today um that I see so I was getting all the
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success at the same time I moved my girlfriend out of her um her father's apartment we get our first little apartment and then I told her quit her
51:57
job and just focus on acting for five years be focused I'll go to work all day plus I built my own I started building
52:02
my own business on the side I'm like if I can build this guy business I built my own now as I'm doing both of those I come home and I would do scripts all day
52:09
with with my partner and one day I come home and she had the
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script I was so tired I didn't want to do it but as soon as I saw the script I'm like this is going to be your part and she ended up booking a main series
52:22
TV show Saved by the Bell it was a reboot and she was the main actress she goes to Los Angeles now I'm in New York
52:29
and I'm like my my soul was telling me I had to go experience being on my own
52:34
leave Safety and Security and when you come from the root chakra dysfunctions and Safety and Security I didn't want to
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do that and then covet hit and as soon as covert hit I went up to Los Angeles and I had to figure out okay Nate now do
52:47
it from scratch do everything by yourself at first it was I went through like a little depression it was really hard for
52:53
me because now I'm going around Los Angeles I was building my name up in New York now I'm a nobody and now I'm
52:58
driving around and my partner is all over Billboards she's a star and then I was Nate I was hascari's boyfriend I was
53:04
the boyfriend of somebody and I'm like no no no no no I'm Nate so I had to find myself it was like a nice reality check
53:11
and then that's when I sat down again and I started to manifest well you should have come to the first
53:17
realization that the divine feminine is more powerful than the Divine masculine right so I sat there and I said you know
53:27
what this little fear of criticism this fear that I have of making videos and putting myself out there about the
53:32
information that I'm learning I'm not gonna let it hold me back I gave you little bits here and there but now I'm
53:37
gonna go all in and when I decided to go all in I started to say to myself I'm
53:42
gonna have celebrities come ask for help and that's exactly what started to happen celebrities come
53:47
for men to you know um you know issues when it comes down to digestion weight loss back pain but then a lot of life
53:54
coaching I put life coaching and life coaching they all go together if you like it or not right they have to they have to so then I started transforming
54:01
people's lives and then I got to um a grammy-nominated artist that had to
54:07
lose weight I got him down 35 pounds everybody thought was going to be impossible because he was a hip-hop artist and then he was dating Naomi
54:13
Osaka so I applied a lot of this stuff to Naomi Osaka her Nutrition a lot of
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that stuff and she ends up winning the Australian Open in 2020 and then things start to take off and then I every time
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I made money one thing I did throughout my journey is I always made an account to make sure that I can go get hlc one
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hlc2 hlc3 I can pay for my hotel I can pay for my food and then I came to hlc2
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in 2020 um at the end of November October and
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that's why I made Angie check and listen to this I'm sitting in in class there's like 35 of us we're doing our
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own thing and you know how you make us have to do our own hlc uh Health uh
54:56
appraisal and you know the paperwork that we have yeah for ourselves to write your own program you write yeah so
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my charts came back all in red so we're hanging out in class everybody's doing they gotta do and
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Angie's like all right we're gonna find someone someone you know if you want to participate to become the example of the
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client you know let us know and we're going to make you the example so we can apply all the knowledge and I'm like okay and uh just one of those in there
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Angie check is the best teacher I've ever had in my life she is the best I've ever had in my life
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well she's the best I've ever seen in my life so
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I mean you weren't there at the Czech conference in 2013 but we had a the
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ultimate Czech professional contest and Czech professionals from all over the world sent in an application
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to show and describe what they had done with the Czech teachings so the goal was to award somebody the
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ultimate check professional and I think we for the for the actual
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conference we had narrowed it down to the three three or four people and they each got a half hour presentation
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and of course it was the Czech Institute and my teaching so I
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thought well I want to see what people have been doing with this because that's the whole point I built the Institute was so that guys like you could go do
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something with it because you know when you have as much knowledge as I do and you look at the world you go God you're
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in deep trouble right now you know yes so anyhow
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I was so utterly Blown Away with Angie's presentation I mean it literally brought
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tears to my eyes and she was making me laugh she was even making fun of me in the presentation which was even funnier
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but you know um I'm just reiterating and and she's a
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master of time and she studies and she's always asking me questions for clarification so
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um I didn't know at the time she'd end up being my second wife that was not something I realized but
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um your assessment of her teaching skills is very accurate is what I'm saying yeah no she was she was amazing
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and so and she's funny she's extremely funny she throws in her her teachings and she does it at the right moment so
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what she did is from the paperwork when she was able to tell me about my whole life without looking at the just to look
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at the questionnaire she told me about my whole life was the first time I told a group of people in
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front of me what happened to me in my life everybody was crying in class I was fighting from breaking down and just
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losing it because it was the first time I felt like a mother archetype was making sure I was okay she's a strong
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mother I was just blown away so my number one goal was when I come back to hlc3 I want to have better paperwork so
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I can show it off after that
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you know I was a client that week and then after I was a client you know everybody she gave me the you know how
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we have to take the test out I mean the paperwork at the end she handed me my paperwork and congratulated me but she
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kept me for the last and everybody was crying we all came and did big group hug and and I'm sitting there and she looked
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at me and she goes you remind me a lot of Paul with his work ethic and it's okay to rest and it's okay to take your
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time see it's coming at you again yeah it was coming at me so it was catching up to me what you said earlier I started
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to notice that it's going to be complete I'm just a completely honest guy for policy yeah I went from being like
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10 body fat to like 15 body fat how
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um I eat the same way I train even harder now and then I started to see I was losing
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my body and then I started to see I started to lose my creativity I was losing my
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creativity and then I lost my grandfather who's like a best friend to me and then
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I lost my stepfather the next month and then I had hoc 3 coming up right and I
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did not want to go to hlc3 because I didn't feel I felt embarrassed I said I
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got fat I know this guy I know and it was the first time I knew I was going to come across you and I waited my whole life
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for that and I was like I would be so embarrassed if I have to take a shirt off in front of this man right now and
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he's in his 60s and he's jacked and now I'm looking like I was like I can't have that so I told myself I wasn't gonna go
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and I and I and I was going to formulate an email it was the first time in my life that I was gonna avoid something
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and not put myself through but like you said earlier it was also the first of my life that I didn't I couldn't build up
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the courage until I get a phone call by Vinnie yeah Vinnie
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used to work in our customer service department I went to hlc too with him I'm like what's up VIN how are you he's
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I'm good he's like you uh you want a gift from Paul I'm like a gift what are you talking
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about he's like well you want a painting I'm like whoa whoa I won that painting
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now for like three months you were talking about how you were doing this painting and I'm like well whoever gets that
1:00:13
painting is one lucky person right like it sounds like an amazing painting that's coming out so when he told me how I got the painting I was like
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oh crap he goes we were gonna ship it to you Nate but you're coming down next week so uh we'll just hold it on so I'm
1:00:26
like oh my God I have to go down now so next week I go into to hlc3 I show
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off my paperwork to Angie and then I have a before and after picture and then um and then the next day you came up and
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when he was coming up I was like all right this first time I'll meet this guy I can't wait first thing you said is who
1:00:46
the hell is the person who won this painting yeah but you know why I said that don't you I
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do and you wrote me a letter you wrote me a four Page Letter that's why I asked yeah because that that letter
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you need a professor to read that letter that letter used words that I I'm not even sure the dictionary has so yeah I I
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have the I brought the painting with me here yeah you can show it yeah let's show this painting I I honestly for me
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uh that was a a tough painting because
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there was so much more that I wanted to do but I just had no time
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I was extremely busy as I always am you know because I'm working on this new book series
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and so what I did was I asked my soul to please
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connect me to the person that the painting was ultimately for whoever it was that was going to win it
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and I went into meditation in the sauna
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and asked for the vision that I was supposed to paint which was ultimately for you
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and as I sat in meditation all I saw was eyes everywhere
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and I just kept seeing eyes and then I saw that they were structured and I said to my soul this looks like indra's net
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and my soul said that's correct whoever you're the person you're painting this
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for is a networker a networker
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so because I understand what indra's net is very deeply and I've studied it extensively and it's actually talked
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about a lot in my new book I said okay well I'm going to paint this and I originally was going to do it on
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like a huge canvas because Xander's net is the universe it's you know beyond the
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universe but I said I can only do this and you know there's 50 eyes on there yes there
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are yep so I thought well I've got to do something fairly simple for this guy because I
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don't have I've barely got time to wipe my ass right now so I was getting in here early in the
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morning and working on that thing like 4 30 4 o'clock in the morning I'd have a cup of coffee you go to Espresso and
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do my prayers and then I'd come sit and paint and then I'd have to go back to work and then I'd come in I just kept
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coming in and out you know and then I'd try to take a little time on the weekend but I got to the point where I said okay
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I can't keep going because if I finish this painting it's going to take me another 50 hours because there's you know a lot
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in there that I couldn't paint because it's so detailed and that was what was driving me crazy is because every time I
1:03:25
would start adding to it I was like okay there's so much more how in the world am I going to finish this so I finally said
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to my soul you tell me when it's done enough to give to the winner before
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I brought it to you because I didn't know it was you I went into meditation and said to my
1:03:44
soul please connect me to the soul of this person so I can write them a letter about this
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painting and so I just got connected to your soul and I said what would you like me
1:03:56
to write in this letter so that they know for sure that this painting's for them so that's how the letter got
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written in the letter you said I know you recently just lost people you loved I'm like what the what what you you
1:04:10
mentioned I don't feel safe and because my whole life I've been trying to find home yeah and you want and you're and
1:04:17
you said um you just want to confirm to me that Earth is my home yeah and it was so much more info and then one of the
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biggest things that stood out that is magical about this painting is that you said that you put
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eyes on because I'm I I help more than one person so when I help one person yeah I'm helping more and I need to just
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trust the process now the problem that I was having at a point in my life was
1:04:44
doubt kind of I was creeping in because I'm like I'm doing these videos and I'm still not growing the way I want to grow
1:04:51
because my focus and my intention was I got a girl I gotta grow a good girl and it wasn't one video at a time one person
1:04:58
at a time and as soon as I took that approach that was on June 8th I got that on June 28th I went viral on the
1:05:06
internet and all the years of hard work that I've put in just blew up all the old videos that I
1:05:12
put up all went up on on Tick Tock this app called Tick Tock that I never
1:05:18
thought I would ever be successful on because I don't dance I thought it was a just dancing app and as soon as that
1:05:25
happened everything just took off you should start dancing
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so everything oh yeah yeah yeah with her yeah yeah we're actually talking about
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taking dancing oh yeah this play don't don't worry about classes just put on
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music that you like take five minutes to start your day and Shake It Out I do it all the time it feels freaking
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great and Just Dance for God Dance For Life dance for all the people
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that haven't danced remember you've probably heard me say it before there's five questions the Shaman's gonna ask
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you if you come to them in trouble when did you stop enjoying being alone when did you stop singing
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when you stopped dancing when did you lose your sense of magic mystery and awe for life
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there's one more but those are the key questions right you look from this day
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forward at every one of your patients when did you stop enjoying being alone
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with yourself whatever answer they give you you write it down when did you stop dancing
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write it down when they stop singing to sing write it down
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when did you lose your sense for the magic mystery and awe of Life write it down and you'll see exactly when their
1:06:43
disease began or their illness or their pain because those are the periods where they
1:06:49
became disconnected from their own soul their own their own magic of their own being
1:06:56
and got caught in the world down and I felt my heart and my body say Okay Nate
1:07:02
now it's time to rest yeah but my ego was like we can't rest you in Los
1:07:08
Angeles we can't rest you see this you see the new actor who just contacted you or these new clients or you got this
1:07:15
opportunity you got to get on that and then I was going against what my
1:07:20
intuition was saying and what you were taught exactly
1:07:26
exactly so as soon as I start to go against it I start having consequences I
1:07:32
started getting clients that I did not want to work with and then I came home one day and I said okay you know what
1:07:39
I looked at my girlfriend and she's an actress in Los Angeles I said listen my soul wants to go home
1:07:46
I never went back home I never lived in New Jersey with money in my pocket I never lived in
1:07:53
New Jersey without living on the streets yeah but I started to notice that
1:07:59
more likes more money did not make me happy what made me happy was being able to
1:08:06
take my dad to lunch yeah that's not running from the cops anymore because you said another thing you can
1:08:12
lose your creativity yeah I had for the first time in my life Paul the first time in my entire life
1:08:18
I struggled without inspiration um and I would tell my girlfriend you know
1:08:24
what she'll say to me she'll be like find out how much Paul is let's pay him let's go to this
1:08:30
she was saying that one time she's like babe I don't care and sometimes she'll get like she'll she she got tired of
1:08:36
seeing me the way I was and she's like we gotta find a way you're gonna go work
1:08:42
with Paul and then one day I told her I said if I go to Paul I'm going as a victim Paul taught me what I need to do
1:08:49
already I'll be I'm I'm being victim right now I already know what he's gonna tell me be
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your own patient exactly so I was cheating Dr quiet there you go it
1:09:00
doesn't work very well and I was cheating Dr happiness slightly Dr happiness but Dr quiet and as soon you
1:09:06
know as soon as you cheat one doctor the other three have to compensate and then there's only so much conversation you're
1:09:11
gonna make and then pain comes in right Mr pain so I know that was a long answer
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Heroin at the time and when I came when she had uh given birth to me I wasn't
0:12
allowed to actually leave the hospital for the first couple months because they were rehabbing my liver and my body to
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bring out the the drugs that were in my body yeah and um there were a couple of times where I didn't think I was
0:24
actually going to make it so it got to the point where my parents actually you know my mom was on the streets my dad
0:30
was a drug dealer my mom's a drug addict and when I was when it was time for me to go home nobody was actually available
0:37
to pick me up so they called the emergency contact which was my grandmother and my grandmother came and
0:43
got me and um you know my grandmother my mother is a white woman my father's a black man and this is at the time where
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it wasn't as popular as it you know it still can be struggles today but it was my parents went through a struggle being
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with each other because of making a biracial baby so when it's come time to
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come get me my grandmother came to get her Brown grandchild and um when it was time to sign me out since my father
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wasn't there to actually give me his you know sign the birth certificate I couldn't get the last name Turner so my
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mother was actually still married when she had had me with her um with my
1:18
father but she was she divorced but didn't officially divorce I ended up with the last name Ortiz which is a huge
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part of my story because when I was my upbringing was uh challenging because my parents you know
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my dad was a drug dealer my mom was a drug addict but I was already not sure who I was as far as
1:38
not blending in as a child I would go to the black community and I was not black enough to be black and there's a lot of
1:45
bullying that actually goes on in the black community when you're not black everything that you do that's good is because you're light-skinned or you know
1:52
it's an excuse on um you know you don't get your credit there and you don't fit in but then when
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I went with my white family um the good thing is that most of them were mixed with some type of Hispanic uh
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but I never felt like I was black and I never felt like I was white and I never felt like I was Spanish either so I was
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like I had to find myself at a young age and you know the last name Ortiz made people think I was Spanish so when I was
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you know growing up I grew up in Jersey City New Jersey and at the time I was always moving um we were all always
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trying to find a place to live my parents were on Section Eight and uh being on Section Eight in welfare you
2:29
you basically move a lot because you're looking for the next cheap apartment that you can afford but at the same time
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my mom was on a a program for drug addiction and my father was a drug addict who had a warrant for his arrest
2:40
so my dad couldn't get us an apartment when we were kids I couldn't really live with him because he was on a run his whole life and my mother she'll do good
2:47
for about a couple months we'll be living at a particular place and then before you know it she's not showing up
2:52
for her meetings and then Section 8 sticking away from us so I'm living with grandma again so I actually grew up in
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the projects downtown Jersey City I grew up right on the Hudson River with the view of New York City and um I said when
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I was about like five six years old things got a little more rough my mom's addiction started to increase to the
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point where she became abusive it was times where I would just get beat with bats
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um she even tried to stab me a couple times and wow um yeah my mom was very very abusive and she took her anger out
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on us you know my brother you know my brothers and my sister oh you have a brother and a sister yeah so my mom had
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two kids before she had me and they were Hispanic and then she had me and then two other boys with my father and um
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there were times when we grew up they kind of segregated the house so we were so poor we we had no food right when the
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first of the month came my mom took that money she she took the food stamp money and then made made a way to get cash for it
3:49
usually what they do is if you get a thousand dollars of food stamp money you trade the thousand dollars of food stamp
3:54
money for 500 cash so you may you're able to make a trade so we'll go hungry for the whole month
3:59
and how did you what did you get by on you my father oh okay so what we had to
4:04
do is we had to learn on how to find Dad we couldn't be with that all day because we had cops following us around Jersey
4:10
City because they knew that we were going to see that so we had to play little tricks um there were times that
4:16
would see we'll meet Dad at Burger King on Wednesday and Dad will come by you don't know what kind of car he's coming
4:21
by and he drops the money off he told us he loved us and then he went back out um so that was my whole life so we had
4:28
to make ten dollars stretch for two three days at a time with two little you know my well my little brother had
4:34
another little brother but my parents couldn't get custody of him um because of their record becoming worse as I was growing up so
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it was to a point where around five six years old I started seeing abusement get really bad in my household and to tell
4:48
you the truth I was so traumatized at the point where my memory even as a child I couldn't remember what happened
4:53
to me so I'll go to school and teachers would ask how did you get that bruise on you or you know why didn't you show up
4:58
yesterday and I I literally couldn't remember at the time that's PTSD exactly it's very bad PTSD so as I was
5:06
continuously going I really I started so I struggled with self-identity but I also struggled with learning
5:12
disabilities because when I was born since the drugs were in my system they
5:17
created issues when it came down to my the development of my brain so they used
5:22
to tell my dad that I would never be able to live without an assistance so when they when I was a kid they tried to
5:27
put me in special ed with a an assistant teacher and they even thought that I was gonna you know I was gonna be autistic
5:33
to the point where I'm gonna need assistance for the rest of my life well they screwed that up didn't they yeah a
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good thing yeah my father he didn't want to accept that he did not want to accept that at all so my father would anytime I
5:44
spoke he'll stop me since I was a kid and he used to say Nate slowed down your words and pronounce this word right and
5:51
I used to think I used to feel very annoyed anytime I used to do that because I used to be in front of like everybody in the neighborhood right like
5:58
I said my dad was a drug dealer so he's speaking to me he's speaking to me in front of all the drug dealers and their kids and I was already embarrassed that
6:04
I couldn't read or write so when I spoke he he would stop everything he's doing in a it can be a birthday party and
6:12
everybody's looking at me my Dad's making me reponounce the word that I messed up as if he knew that I wanted to
6:18
be like a speaker growing up it was just like a magical thing I felt like my dad was secretly just a wizard that was put in
6:24
my life to guide me to be the man I am today because even when the times were going bad in my life my dad was the one
6:30
that trained my brain he never allowed my brain to accept the fact that this is it this is really bad as it is he used
6:37
to tell me he calls me pi he said paw someone out there got a worse than you right now
6:42
um we'll get what we got food on our back we found a way to get food in our mouth and we got a roof over our head we're
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blessed and it was to the point where through my childhood it got thing as
6:54
things got worse my mom she her drug addiction was getting worse until my my sister had
7:00
kids as soon as my sister had kids she had something to change for she came a grandmother everything was going good
7:06
but then it trickled down to my sister having drug addiction oh wow so my sister starts losing her mind she had a
7:11
baby had epilepsy and then my sister was charged with the murder of her daughter
7:17
which was my niece so my sister had two boys and a girl one was three and a half
7:22
then we had I think a two-year-old and then a newborn and my sister killed a newborn so every day I would wake up I
7:29
watch my nephews and then after school I'll take care of my nephews I was around like nine ten years old at this time and now the state of New Jersey one
7:36
day came took my sister took her boyfriend my brother assaulted the cameraman from the news channel the New
7:43
York news kept on coming to the house my brother went to jail my mother relapsed on drugs didn't see her for about two
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months after that and then the state of New Jersey took my nephews away so I woke up and everything was taken away from me so it was to the point where I
7:55
had to figure out what I was going to do with my life it's an early start on that one exactly I was
8:01
like I have to do something with this so every day I would go to school and everybody in the school knew what
8:06
happened it was all over the news it was breaking news it was on newspapers so people didn't want to come near me or
8:13
people thought I was like a part of a killer family and all these you know weird things but I had this one uh
8:18
counselor his name was Mr Fernandez and he was this Cuban guy I used to wear college shirts with a gold chain he had
8:24
his hair coming out and he was someone that people were intimidated by and he came up to me and said you got to come
8:30
to my office after school you have to speak to me and I told him I'm not speaking to you because my whole life I
8:35
kept these things that were going home uh basically going on at home secret I don't want nobody know I'm
8:41
going through has everybody thought that I was this kid that just had some learning disabilities and I actually
8:46
transformed my pain into laughter and I became a Class Clown and I want to
8:52
motivate my friends but nobody knew I was going through this at home so one day after like two weeks of him harassing me
8:57
I'm like look talk to my little brother he needs it I don't need it and because where I'm from is you know
9:03
it's it's you're soft if you go talk to somebody it's not it's not something
9:08
that is you know um normal in my neighborhood like oh you have to go see a therapist like oh you're gonna and then you get joked on
9:14
so at the time I'm like I'm not gonna see no counselor and then I remember one day I went home we had no food we had no cable and then
9:22
I went to go take a shower and the hot water is off I can't find my mom my dad you know he's he's he's trying to
9:30
figure out how to make money to feed me and he's on the streets and I sat down I'm like all right if I don't do
9:37
something about this in my life then my then I'm gonna end up like my sister like my brother or I'm gonna be a drug
9:42
dealer and I used to think my dad was the smartest man I've ever met in my life and I used to it used to upset me
9:48
I'm like this man is the smartest man I would go to school I'll learn something about science and I'll try to come tell him when I saw him he'll tell me
9:53
everything about it but then I'll do he'll tell me about the law history how doorknobs are made and I used to say Dad
9:59
you're the smartest man I've ever met in my life in the back of my mind I used to say I want to be like my dad but I want
10:05
to do it legally yeah that was the goal that's Until I Met You by the way I I
10:11
was happy when I when I came across your work and I told my dad about you because my whole life my goal was to try to find someone smarter than him
10:18
oh maybe I'm not I was like Dad I found somebody so I
10:23
came home and I took a piece of paper I had this notebook and that piece of paper I said okay on the top of the piece of paper I said how can I escape
10:30
Jersey City question mark so I started to think well maybe I can become a teacher maybe I can
10:35
do this maybe we can do that so then I set out the goal and then before the then after I set out the goal I took
10:40
like a ladder and I made a little ladder of steps to be able that need to be taken care of or I need to take to be
10:46
able to make it there so one of the first things I said was like okay how can I go to a high school that can
10:51
avoid these gangs in this neighborhood because all my friends are in gangs and I don't want to you know people getting stabbed every day I was like okay how do
10:57
I do that I want to go to private school okay how can I go to private school and then it hit me we had the number one
11:03
basketball school in the country and we it was ran by a man named Bob Hurley who got inducted to the Hall of Fame the
11:08
same year Michael Jordan did one of the top basketball coaches of all time and Hurley is a Miller he's like a military
11:14
guy he's a guy that you don't your scare demons laugh around him because he had you he took the best athletes in the
11:21
world the best basketball players in the world and he straightened them out when Team USA was having a problem with Kevin
11:26
Garnett they brought Hurley there to be able to straighten him out right he was Hurley was the only one that most people
11:32
listened to so I'm like I want to play for Hurley and if I played for Hurley everybody that played for Hillary went
11:38
to college 100 wow so I said if I play for Hurley Hurley had five to six people get a full
11:43
division one scholarship out of his program a year so I'm like if I play for Hurley I'm gonna make it in life if you go in my
11:50
town or even on most of the most of the United States you tell people that you play for Bob Hurley the chances of
11:56
someone knowing him is very high which means that I can get hired somewhere so I got really excited I wrote down become
12:03
a saint Anthony Friar get a scholarship so I'm super happy about it now I took that goal
12:09
because that goal is going to lead me to the biggest goal that I want to be when I grow up and then I said okay what can I do to start on this today
12:16
so I went to school the next day Mr Fernandez in the morning looking for me so I need to talk to you you need and I said you know what you're 100 correct I
12:23
need to talk to you so he was blown away he was he was like oh you need to talk to me and I said look I'm going to make
12:28
you a deal I'll tell you everything you want to hear I tell you everything I never told people under one condition he
12:34
said what's that I said you have to come every morning and you have to open up this gym at six in the morning you have
12:39
to catch my rebounds he said what I said you have to catch my rebounds and I'll tell you everything
12:44
you want I want to work on my jump shot because if I work on my basketball game I can go to play for Anthony's he goes
12:50
you know what I'll make you a deal I'll do that but the day that you miss it every day after that you have to come
12:55
after school and you have to sit in my office I was like oh man I don't know if I want to make that deal
13:01
then I was like you know what you got it and I shook hands with him the next morning I went there and I started
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working on my game he came to the basketball gym the next morning and I he came with this tank top high shorts high
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socks and headband and he had this go chain in his gold wrist
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um uh bracelet and I'm like this guy's a clown he thinks he I hope he doesn't want to play me because I'm I'm gonna
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destroy him um I had something else come this guy destroyed me he threw elbows at me he
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made Moves on me I'm I was blown away I couldn't tell the whole you know the whole school about Miss Fernandez is a
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good basketball player then I come to find out they're like oh you didn't know Mr Fernandez was one of the best he's in a he's in the New Jersey Basketball Hall
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of Fame one when I came in he had the newspaper and he had a guy named Mike Rosario that
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just got a scholarship to play for Rutgers he takes the newspaper he puts it up before I came in the gym he said
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go to that newspaper and read it so I read it then I'm like okay let's go he goes no no go read it again so I read it
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I'm like okay he goes now I want you to read it one more time but I want you to instead of saying Mike Rosario put Nate
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Ortiz and besides Mike's face there imagine your face
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and every morning he did that and then when another player got a scholarship from like he made me do it he made me do it and it became to a position where I
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felt as if I were already us Anthony fryer so summertime comes I go I'm all over the
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streets because my dad is moving my mom is moving so I'm in all different neighborhoods so I went to every
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basketball court in Jersey City to play in every League to play against the best kids one day Bob Hurley comes he sees me
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play I was in sixth grade I played in the High School league and he said hey man he said Hey kid you're
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good you're pretty good what do I know you from I'm like what do you know me from you know you don't know me and I
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was shaking because it's Bob Hurley and he goes who's your father and so my father's Nate Nate Turner he
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goes oh yeah I arrested your father I said what he said well I used to be a
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parole for sure and your father I was on your father how's your father doing today now I'm like I don't want to tell
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him the truth because I don't want him thinking I'm you know this bad kid but then I knew that being honest was the
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best way to go I'm like Oh my dad's still you know doing what he has to do take care of us so he looks around he goes
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come next week to the gym I have a camp now I already know about his Camp each year he does a basketball camp and he
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gets sixth grade seventh grade eighth graders it's kind of prospect but also to see who's the best in the in the
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tri-state area so he's like all right you can come so I went to the camp now the Camp starts at
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eight o'clock I got there at six so one thing since I was a kid that I knew that I had to take advantage of I didn't have
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the money for the gear I didn't have money for the lessons but I can outwork you and I'll outwork the janitor so I
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got that a janitor gets there he's like what do you and now sit in front of the gym he's like the camp doesn't start to as I know I'm gonna wait so as I waited
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the assistant basketball coach let me in pull me to the side and goes where do I know you from I'm like you don't know me
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he's like who's your father I said well Nate turn he goes I used to be your father's gym teacher so I'm like oh my
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God my dad is all over town everybody knows this guy so then he goes do you have breakfast with you I said no I
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don't have breakfast he said Mom and Dad didn't give you money I said I don't have money he said well do you want breakfast I
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said no I just want the ball so I can shoot before these kids get here so I can destroy these kids today
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so he gave me the ball I got an out every day I went and I went two hours early to shoot I became the MVP of the
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summer league see when you go to summer league they give you a t-shirt I took that T-shirt and wear every day so when
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I was done with the lead we won the championship they moved me up to eighth grade but when we were done with the league I was going around the city telling all the drug dealers because
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each section of my city there's drug dealers that usually really run the courts there they're sitting on the
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corners and uh the drug dealers protected me from other neighborhoods coming over and hurting me
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so I went to my neighborhood I'm like I got a scholarship they've got a scholarship no I didn't
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get a scholarship but I knew if I told him I got a scholarship that means I have to I apply more pressure and I have
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to make the scholarship come true I can't be a liar that's a good reverse psychology I did
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that in sixth grade and nobody believed me everybody laughed so I had proof my proof was look I got the look at the
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shirt I got this Anthony shirt and um so for sixth grade I'd never missed a day of school so I
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kept my deals so when I was seventh grade coming back now things are getting a little rough at home now actually and
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I never told nobody this but going into seventh grade year was actually the first time I've ever seen my mom get high and that was devastating because
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when I was growing up I didn't know Mom was getting high um I just thought my mom has my mom's
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bipolar and she has multiple personality disorder so I'm working with like five six different versions of my mother yeah
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that's tricky it's very tricky so this is when I started to really want to understand the psychology outside of the
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books with experience so I remember one day I went home and there was my mom's
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doorknob was broke and I was trying to get you know let her know I was leaving and then when I looked through the
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doorknob hole I witnessed my mom you know getting high with her husband at the time and um and that's when things
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started to get bad so going to seventh grade things start to go downhill my dad made sure that Brandon and I my little
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brother Brandon and I we stood together nobody could separate us because because my whole family was getting separated all the time but Brandon and I never
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separated he's like a twin he looks like me I call him my twin but one of the hardest things for me was life was hard
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for me as a kid but this guy was he was eight years old you know he's three years younger than me so I knew that I had to be the bigger
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brother and develop this mindset I call it the bulletproof mindset nothing can stop it I had to develop this mindset to protect
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him you know so I go back to school and immediately when I went to school I
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wanted to know why mom was I wanted to know why behind everything so I'm like why is my mom getting high why is my dad drug dealer why is my dad not taking his
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knowledge and be so then why why is my brain sometimes I come to school and I can read but sometimes I can't I notice
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I couldn't read after 12 p.m after lunch what is it is it the food right so I started adding all these
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things up so when I went back to school immediately I started to experience uh a
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change in the what was interesting to me and what wasn't I became very serious with life I stopped becoming a Class
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Clown I wanted to get good grades and I remember when I went home my my stepfather went to prison that year my
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stepfather came home from prison he was a different man I want and he looked like a superhero this guy was built like the Hulk so
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immediately I noticed that my mother would yell at him he was he won't react I noticed that he was not an alcoholic
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oh he wasn't drinking at the time what did what did he do I want to know what happened
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so I asked him what happened what did he do differently and he told me to come with him the next morning at 7 A.M so I
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woke up the next morning at 7 A.M I went to the I went to him went to the park and it was like seven other guys there
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that just came home from prison and they're doing and they put me on the pull-up bar I said okay do some pull-ups
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now I was always overweight when I was a kid and there was no way I can do a push-up or pull-up but
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even though it is obvious I couldn't do it they encouraged me so I saw the power of
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the mind immediately the incur you can do it now if I had this big strong guy tell me I can do it I can do it so I
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noticed that if I told my mind I can do something I can do it and as we were working out 15 to 20 minutes in that workout these guys start talking about
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their feelings I'm like what the hell is going on here these tough guys are talking about how
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they're sad and how they're they're gonna make something out of their life and then I noticed myself as soon as
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like 25 30 minutes was starting to cave in I started to notice myself feel grounded for the first time in my life
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when I walked away I noticed that my thoughts were more aligned I noticed that my feelings were more managed and I
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and I couldn't wait to share it with somebody so I went to immediately my friends that were in gangs and I tried
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to get them I convinced them to come to the basketball with me at six in the morning so I got 15 of my friends that were all
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on the streets that come with me in the morning in seventh grade eighth grade they never missed a day of school they
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never got back they never got in trouble 14 of them today have families they're out of jail they went to high school and
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they they're they're successful only one of them are in jail right now so I saw the power of putting your mind
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to something moving the body and then coming together and encouragement now we lose the apartment oh
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now we go to Red Cross so in the morning I go to school with a laundry bag and I
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got a laundry bag deodorant in there a toothbrush and probably leftover dinner
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from last night if I had and I came to school the nurse used to allow me and my brother to dump our laundry bag of all
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stuff because then after school we have to walk probably like two hours to Red Cross sit at Red Cross and then wait for
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a donation to come in so they had donations come in that were going that were being distributed to different things they had and then there was
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leftover donations that they'll buy me a room so when they brought me a room that room can be two hours the other way wow
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so we did this in the winter we did this all year round and um and then sometimes the rooms have bed bugs so we knew how
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to we knew how to work with bed bugs we had an agreement with bed bugs we made like little little ways to not get bit
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and it was just crazy so I started to lose a little bit of Hope as if I wasn't going to get a
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scholarship from Bob Hurley usually by 8th grade you get the scholarship didn't get anything one day I go to I'm in
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school I'm going to the bathroom my brother goes nay nay I'm like what he goes come here I ran over he goes Bob
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Hurley's daughter is my teacher her first day was today his daughter is my
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teacher I can tell him about you I'm like are you serious right now so after school I go get my brother from picking
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him up and he goes this is my brother this is my brother your dad has to give him a scholarship she goes hi I'm
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Melissa and I'm like oh hi she goes my your brother keeps talking about you now my brother since we were missing so much
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school my brother was left back two grades so my brother is like 5 10 in third grade wow so he was it was looking
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but he was so smart that Melissa fought for him to be pushed back to his regular
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grade so she she changed his life but at the same time she convinced her father
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to come to one of my games the date the only game that he was able to come to was a summer league in the
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middle of the ghetto and it was I'd never imagined Bob really coming to that part of the town but I mean he ran the
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town he can go any part he wants I remember the day like it was yesterday our league was so broken that the eighth
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graders were paying seniors in high school so it was drug dealers I was running the leagues because what drug
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dealers did they found out how to get recreational money to run a recreational league but then also put a little money
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in their pocket so one day I remember I'm warming up and I'm playing this kid that has a division one scholarship I'm
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in eighth grade now this park that we're playing in I used to sleep in this park because sometimes Red Cross didn't come
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through or sometimes mom locked the door and I couldn't get in the house so I had to find somewhere to go so I used to
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tell my brother if we want to be successful in life you got to be able to really like work
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for it to the point or are you willing to sleep in a basketball court to become a basketball player I used to make up
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these stories to keep his imagination from crumbling because if he crumbled I crumbled so we used to we sometimes we
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had to sleep in that park or stay there till like three four in the morning then wait in front of the school until the janitor comes and then go inside
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so I used to shoot in this park with no lights so this was my Park we're warming up I'm like I have to play
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this college kid I didn't know you see a white Audi come convertible Bob Hurley pulls up
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people go Nate Hurley's here everybody told me at that moment I felt in my heart that this in my gut this was my
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moment I had 55 points and I earned the full scholarship to play for Bob Hurley that day yeah good when we did that
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my mom lost it even more to the point where my dad says my mom started to
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really beat us to the point where my dad was like all right I can't I'm gonna have to
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risk my my freedom so you guys gonna have to stay with me now so we used to stay
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um as soon as I got in high school we started staying in a hotel right in front of the Holland Tunnel and
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um every day at 11 o'clock we were waiting for my dad hopefully made enough money so we can pay for the room but now
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it was Nate take this bottle go to the car
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and make sure he gives you twenty two hundred dollars well Nate take this bottle drive here
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make sure that this person gives you 3 500 and don't let them leave if they don't give you all the money
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so now it was me having to do something that I was not built for I grew up with all these people on the streets but in
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my heart since I was a kid I felt like I was not here to do I just wasn't built for it my brother was my cousins are for
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me if me and you had a fight which I try to avoid all I can I'll cry after and give you a hug and
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talk to you like we should never do that again and then you're bleeding with a broken hose and I'm like don't do that to me
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again please let's not do that again so things were getting worse as far as that you know that was going and then now I'm
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in St Anthony's I got the full scholarship and then the school found out I was homeless and then I was busted
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because they found me gumming back and forth from the hotel because the hotel was only a couple blocks away from school
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and then the whole school tried to help me to give me like you know granola bars during the day and stuff and it was it
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was really nice of them to do but then I knew I had to figure out how to get a college how to get to college so long
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story short when I was in high school they started a football program and Hurley was like Nate you're six three
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you're 240 you're very athletic once you try to play football they're going to start a program I'm like I'll never play
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football and her exactly I think all professional tight ends play football I mean play basketball and they became
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great tight end so I gave it a try and um first I was the first division one football player in school history
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and I had 25 scholarships I was a number two Titan in uh in the state of New Jersey I made Allstate I was a um I made
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the new uh the New Jersey All-Star team and um but football really wasn't what I
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wanted to do it was my way to get to college I got a full scholarship I went to Delaware and they said you know the
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um the counselor is like you should just study Communications football players come they study Communications easy play
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football go to the NFL and I was like no no no I want to study Bachelor science I want to study movement science I want to
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know why the body looks like this and why muscles hurt and they're like Nate you can't do that only three percent of
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um student athletes go through that program and actually finish and and he kind of like came lean over he said uh
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you gotta learn disabilities you know that's gonna be really difficult as soon as he said I couldn't do it I'm like all right now I'm going to do it just to
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show you I can do it so I end up going through that becoming one of the top students in that and uh
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and then I blew up in football I was the first Titan to do a lot of things in school history and then one day we have
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four NFL Scouts there then they checked my weight they're not allowed to talk to me as being an athlete but I knew that
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we all knew that I was going to be predicted probably fourth round and um I remember I was in football practice
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they were there my coach was showing me off and he was doing all the plays to favor me and then I remember one play on
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blocking because I'm tied in a block and I and I catch I'm blocking and my teammate ran right into my spine and I
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felt tingling going down my legs and I said okay something's not right so I ran over to the coach and as a coach my legs
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are tingling and he says shut the hell up and get back in there so I go back in and then
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it was a play where I had to act like I was blocking the defensive end and then if the linebacker comes I get off the defensive end I run and I catch the ball
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because the linebacker is not there and that's exactly what happened linebacker went I went but as I turned I lost
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feeling in my legs the ball hit my helmet I collapsed and I was rushed to the emergency room you blow a disc yes
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well five yes yes and uh L4 was also uh
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a damaged L4 as well now I'm in a wheelchair worst pain in my life and
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they want to give me drug painkillers but I'm scared to take drugs because my parents are addicts so I'm like no no I
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can't take that and then um and then I start to cry and I knew that my chances
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of you know the spinal doctor was trying to do emergency surgery he's like you got to go to surgery and I'm like I'm not going to surgery I'm not I don't
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want surgery um and then as I'm sitting there I started to cry and my teammates came two
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of my teammates came and we all knew my career was over and then I started to laugh and they're
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like what is so funny and I'm like oh my God I can I'm not supposed to be a football player man
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this is going to be another chapter in my book yeah and I'm gonna Inspire the world from this so they're like oh the
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painkillers are kicking in like no they're not I didn't take them so I went home and I
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went through a deep depression because now I did not know who I was without being an athlete yeah
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my whole life I had back issues and when I was 16 I remember I came
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across somebody for the first time in my entire life that I said that is me I
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couldn't find that in basketball I couldn't find that in football you find a nice basketball player I'm not six eight you find a nice football player
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they don't they can't relate to me they grew up in the middle class so one day I was online and I was always
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trying to search for answers to dig deeper into the science I was learning at school and this freaking guy kept on coming up
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and it was annoying me because this guy did not look like he knew what he was talking about this guy didn't look like a doctor I'm programmed to look like to
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look for people that are doctors and this guy's name was yo Elliott Elliott Hulse yes okay
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I came across oh yo Elliott at 16. I didn't want to watch his videos I'm going to be 100 honest with you because
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of the programming I had this guy was jacked looked like an older version of me and
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I'm like I don't want to talk I don't listen to this guy he doesn't know what he's talking about and then one day I couldn't get rid of this back pain my
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whole life I had back and I have rheumatoid arthritis could not get rid of it and I'm like
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he had a video saying why your back is jacked up so I avoided it for like five months every time I was looking up back pain I
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was like don't listen to this guy so one day I go click the video and this guy goes the reason why your back is jacked
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up is because your guts are jacked I mean messed up um I was like that kind of what the hell
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did he just say so I rewinded it he goes here's some signs that you know you got is messed up farting bloating
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and I'm like oh my God that's me so I started digging in all his videos and as I'm watching him my ego did not
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win acceptance information but there was this gut feeling this intuition in my in my gut and my heart
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that not only that I have to dig deeper but a sense of finally I found me I
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found who I am yeah the golden thread so when I was growing up I was always
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trying to figure out you know I'm half black half white who am I I can't rap I can't relate to these
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rappers I can't relate to nobody and I'm motivating I was always growing up on the streets of Jersey City where
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you can catch me motivating you to stop drinking so we can you know have our minds straight for tomorrow to escape
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this ghetto and when I saw yo Elliot speak I'm like that's me that that that that
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guy is me so then I want to know where the hell did you learn this information from
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I said who where did you learn this from I'm in school I'm not learning this right now
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dug deep and he had a video of saying something with my mentor
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and then there I see Paul check I see Yo Elliott and Paul so I click on the video
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and then I didn't hear a word you said I didn't I wasn't hearing anything you said yet the
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video just started what made me want to listen more is I studied body language because when I used to come out my
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bedroom I used to have to know what mama had that day yeah do I have Mom that's going to beat the hell out of me is Mom
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High drunk I can tell by what she's doing by hearing and then when I looked
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at her I looked at her shoulders her eyes I saw how yo Elliott was standing next to you
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and I said this is the guy I look up to but I can just tell by his body language that he's all ears with this guy and I
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don't care what the hell this guy has to say I'm listening to everything he says so I listened to the video and then
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that's when I go deep on your work then I'm like oh this guy's a wizard [Laughter]
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that and I said dad I found someone smarter than you
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I was like okay I want to get the the book that you had how to eat movie be healthy and I was so broke I was 16 at
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the time you should have just emailed me I'd have given it to you you know what's great I even have access to email we only had access to email in the morning
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when I lived in a hotel but I didn't even know what email was I was so out of that world and as I'm growing up I was
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trying to get how to eat movie be healthy but tell you the truth you gave so much information
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that you made I've read 45 000 books that you made but you have to
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put the effort in a lot of people who are not willing to put the effort in to look in your blogs actually sit down and
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watch a 30 minute video I did all of that I have notebooks of your your work so
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I was watching the video you made and you said that you call it you said that you there's only so much fast food
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information you can give right and you kind of changed my perspective on investing into education yeah good
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um but at the same time you also said in one of the videos that it's your way of
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giving back to the universe and I'm like I don't think this guy understands that he's actually getting me through what
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I'm getting going through for free and I can't one day I I just couldn't wait to
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thank you one day that's why I do it that's why I do it I you know how many thousands of hours I've put in there's
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over 750 videos on my channel you know My Philosophy has always been
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to be an information Santa Claus you know Santa comes down the chimney and he leaves you something nice
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and he doesn't charge anything just like you're saying I've been through a lot of hard times myself and and there's always
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been keep people in my life that
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somehow managed to teach me something or give me something
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because I'd had so many letters from people saying I can't afford to take your course I can't afford to buy your book I can't afford to go to The
35:58
Institute or whatever so I just felt that it was my responsibility
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spiritually to the rest of myself because philosophically I believe that there's
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only one being that exists and that's what we call God
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and so I felt obligated to make sure that anyone that could access video
36:22
could at least find Solutions or know what questions to ask
36:29
their doctors or their therapists so that they could have a rational approach to what was
36:36
going on to begin to understand it I mean I've done videos on everything obviously you've watched a lot of them so I watched them over and over again
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yeah well you know video like a thousand times well you probably got a better education than you
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would have gotten in a university well that that's the interesting thing when I when I actually start to go to school I
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had a lot of challenges with my professors because then I started to notice oh
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the program is deep yes there's a deep programming going on and I was never one
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to hold back the the best thing about the information is I applied it as soon as I started to apply one of the first
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things is a fungal infection I had I mean I lived in mold houses I live and I
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I studied the hell out of your fungal infection information I applied it and I saw my attention disorder leave yes my
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depression leave these pimples on my face disappear yeah fungal mycotoxins
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are extremely toxic they're some of the most dangerous chemicals in the world I
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don't know if you know this but they use them in military Warfare I actually saw a video Once doing some research
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where they had extracted the fungal mycotoxins and made a liquid out of it
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and they had a rat in a glass box and the scientist dropped one drop of this
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liquid from fungal mycotoxins and it killed the rat instantly the rat just fell over and dropped dead with one drop
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of fungal mycotoxins and they're considered to be some of the most dangerous chemicals in the world and
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some of the most sick people I've ever had to work with were people that didn't realize they had a fungal infection in
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their house mold right mold yeah so when I went through the the the the the stuff like
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uh the school as I'm going through school I already in my mind when my career was over in the back of my mind I
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said I have to figure out how to do what Elliott Halls did I want to be the next
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yo Eliot because I saw him turn his dream into green is what I call it
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yeah turning his dream into making a beautiful business but also helping millions of people I graduated college
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now when I graduate college my dad has an he has an apartment but he has it in one of the worst neighborhoods in New
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Jersey it was in Newark New Jersey and it was a it was a very very it was a scary neighborhood that I I've been
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there I know exactly what you're talking about you know what strange the uh
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I'm trying to remember 1988 it was either the men's or the women's
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Olympic trials and the marathon were held there and I was the therapist for both the
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men's and the women's and I had 10 athletes that I coached make it to the Olympic trials
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and the first thing I noticed I could not find food worth eating anywhere and there was a huge problem with
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obesity there and forgive me for saying but I felt like I was in a [ __ ] I'm like who in the hell would live here no
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no you gotta listen I feel the same way why did they put the freaking Marathon
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trials here I mean these poor athletes are I remember I went to a restaurant and this is a long time ago and the
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waitress is a huge fat lady and she brought me a bunch of white bread and I said I'm just curious do you guys even
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have brown bread or whole grain bread and she looked at me and she said what's that I'm like oh my God we're in big
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trouble so we start to happen in New Jersey is that on the Hudson River you have Jersey City and Hoboken and then
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you have Bayonne on the other side what happens is it started to be I call it baby Manhattan so people started to build
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brand new housing and buildings on the Hudson River so people that went to New York that was it was too expensive to
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get an apartment come over to New Jersey and get an apartment for cheaper and it's new right so what that did is it
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raised the rent on people that were you know didn't have money and they all started to move back and a lot of them
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ended up in Newark now not to say everybody but Newark was always a struggling City when it came down to
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that and it was a city that I didn't like going to because like I said in Jersey City I was protected the drug
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dealers and the Gang guys knew who I was and they protected me this neighborhood they don't care who you are so when I
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graduated college I'm like where am I going to live I didn't even think about these things because I was planning to go to the NFL
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and my girlfriend's father pulls me to the side I mean uh tells my girlfriend Hey listen you're a good kid
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and I want I know you're going to be successful so you can come live with us in Washington Heights so they had this
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apartment price 700 square foot apartment in Washington Heights but if when you enter his home it makes it he
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made it feel like you were in Tribeca he redid everything but Washington Heights is one of the worst neighborhoods in New
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York right so I go from one ghetto to another but here's the thing number one when I went there I always had clean
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clothes I had heat I had hot water and this was in 2017 and I knew it was
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somewhere I was going to go that had internet and it was in New York City I can get on a train and train people you
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know you know it's strange you're saying this was only 2017. that's what is this 20 20 22 five years ago five years ago
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it's it's it's a very interesting thing for me because you know I'm 61 so 2017
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for me feels like five minutes ago yeah you know what what's coming to me is is
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that um your Destiny's Child it's just like the unfolding it's it's
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in your life it's moving quite fast how old are you Nate I I turned 29. you know
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it's like you're living a very accelerated life because
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to go from there in 2017 to having your first place to
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have clean clothes in a shower and a stable environment to
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where you're at now is is I mean that's like getting shot out of a cannon yeah yeah I I say my whole life
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though I use my imagination and I never accepted I never I knew I was going to
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do what I'm doing today so if it feels like I was shot out of Canon but at the same time it felt like
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I was this interview right now between you and I I did this already in my mind a thousand times when you were
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interviewing other people I imagine that anytime your guests responded that was me I imagine myself sitting there I
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really did that my mind was something that got me out of all of this but at the same time there's um something that
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I noticed side effects from this as well so as great as it sounds that I was doing the side effects is it's hard for
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me to sit down on a Monday after accomplishing everything and not doing something else
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working on something yeah right it's hard to put a rain on yeah because I I I
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became obsessed and not a I'm you know what yeah I became obsessed with making sure
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I I'm scoping out the person that I want to become I'm doing something to make sure that happens yeah well at your age
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that's not normal there's a lot of Drive uh when you're that age to
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create your identity and and have a sense of who you are and to if you're
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healthy to do something in the world uh I got news for you that's going to go on for a while
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all right listen you gotta tell me to my partner well you know the the thing is you know
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I when I was in the the age you're at now I was like a like a a literal ball
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of fire I was intensely driven um
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I came to the realization what I was here in the world to do the day I became the trainer of the army boxing team
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and then had the experience of of seeing how my knowledge
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and my therapy that I did for the fighters enhanced their performance and and the
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coaches and saying whatever the hell you're doing it's working because you know the injury
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rate dropped down dramatically and their athletic ability improved dramatically
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and I was in fights with the coaches all the time because they kept wanting to do stupid stuff and I kept having to try to
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explain to them why that wasn't working and they would say how can you say that
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to us do you know how many champions we've created and you know what I would say to them I have a more important question you
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should ask how many of you ruined along the way that the only reason I'm bringing this
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up is because you know I can look at your story and I can find myself in your story
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and I can see the intensity
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but I can save you a lot of time there's a reason I teach working in and there's a reason I did Tai Chi every
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day for 18 years there's a reason I haven't been missed a day of work due to illness in over 40
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years because however much fire you have it takes that
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much water to keep you in balance basic Alchemy so if you push yourself so hard
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that you get to the point where you start losing your sense of Center your sense of focus and your sense of
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connection to things that aren't meaningful
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and what I mean by that is it's very easy at your age
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to keep having to do something that's meaningful that produces a result that gets you somewhere but that takes
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tremendous Focus and what happens is your mind starts to get tired and your body
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is what's carrying your mind so if your body if your mind is tired your body's tired
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and so what happens is you start losing your creativity you start losing your enthusiasm
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and your girlfriend will want to take your phone away and your computer away and your books away
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and get you to just look into her eyes and be present with what's right in front of you so that you can see God
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instead of reading books about it and it took me a long time to learn that
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so you know I think if there's anything I can give you at this time in your life
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always ask yourself how much water do I need to balance my fire so that I'm not
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burnt out my mind is clear and I have the time to make
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the important decisions that not only give me the success that I
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want and help give me the ability to help other people but don't take me away from
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contact with the people that I'm here to love and that love me
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because if you get too far and I've done it I lost contact
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with my son Paul Jr and I lost contact with my first wife because I was like you I was too focused
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and anybody that got in my way was a pain in the ass because I was on a mission
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and so I ended up with a wounded son who
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Thought I Loved work more than I loved him but similar to you coming from a
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rough family environment and parents that often didn't have much money
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I was focused on getting away from that and so in my mind I had created this story that
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as long as I make enough money that my family can have a nice home and and
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shoes and clothes and things that upset me because I didn't get
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compared to my friends as a kid that I was doing the best thing for them so I ended up living in a nice condo in
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the nice part of town in a wealthy part of town making lots of money but
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the people that love me only got to see me study and work and study and work and study and work
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and so it caused pain because they felt that I
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loved my work and other people more than I loved them and so it though some of these are hard
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lessons to learn especially when you come from a background like yours because you're you get to the point where you realize
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that the success you have is because you did the hard work to get there you made the goal and so the next Target is the
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next goal because the mind says that's what I've got to do to be safe but in reality what happens is you find
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yourself financially safe but losing connection to your heart so I end up
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going to New York City and as I'm in New York City every day I woke up and I made a video and I had no job I had nowhere
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to go I had nothing my girlfriend went to acting class her father was a hard-working man and a great father who
49:57
took care of his kids who worked his butt off every day and I would go to Starbucks every day because they have
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Wi-Fi I get their coffee and then I'll get their um bathroom code all for two dollars in
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a cup of water for two dollars so but I will put myself in that position to make myself feel like I was going to work so
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I used to sit at Starbucks and I will write down a goal every day and my goal
50:20
was to become a Czech practitioner well you did it yeah and I was like if I become a Czech practitioner I can change
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a lot of things so I start to apply I got into uh hlc one I
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started to apply these things then I got the the um more all the courses you know the program design I applied all this stuff
50:39
to my coaching making videos people requested you know help I would go all over New York City help people but I
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applied all my coaching in the holistic lifestyle coaching formula good nobody
50:51
has ever seen that and then I bring my enthusiasm to it and then I started changing people's lives and it was
50:57
getting to a point where doctors were calling me asking me to work with their obese clients before
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they do bypass surgery like can you help them before we do the bypass surgery that was nice of them to ask motion don't ask they don't want you to win
51:09
exactly so out of nowhere one day I get a phone call from Goldman Sachs vice
51:14
president his name was Steve Silverman and he thinks I would be a great leader and the new person to run his business
51:20
in Westchester New York I was 24. and they and I had to figure out how to grow a business I never did it before so I
51:26
got there early every day and I just studied on how to run a business I turned into being a very successful
51:32
business because I was applying my check practitioner uh you know
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knowledge and I was changing people people come back pain never looked at their digestive tract people come with
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attention just a huge rise in attention to certain kids today um that I see so I was getting all the
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success at the same time I moved my girlfriend out of her um her father's apartment we get our first little apartment and then I told her quit her
51:57
job and just focus on acting for five years be focused I'll go to work all day plus I built my own I started building
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my own business on the side I'm like if I can build this guy business I built my own now as I'm doing both of those I come home and I would do scripts all day
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with with my partner and one day I come home and she had the
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script I was so tired I didn't want to do it but as soon as I saw the script I'm like this is going to be your part and she ended up booking a main series
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TV show Saved by the Bell it was a reboot and she was the main actress she goes to Los Angeles now I'm in New York
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and I'm like my my soul was telling me I had to go experience being on my own
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leave Safety and Security and when you come from the root chakra dysfunctions and Safety and Security I didn't want to
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do that and then covet hit and as soon as covert hit I went up to Los Angeles and I had to figure out okay Nate now do
52:47
it from scratch do everything by yourself at first it was I went through like a little depression it was really hard for
52:53
me because now I'm going around Los Angeles I was building my name up in New York now I'm a nobody and now I'm
52:58
driving around and my partner is all over Billboards she's a star and then I was Nate I was hascari's boyfriend I was
53:04
the boyfriend of somebody and I'm like no no no no no I'm Nate so I had to find myself it was like a nice reality check
53:11
and then that's when I sat down again and I started to manifest well you should have come to the first
53:17
realization that the divine feminine is more powerful than the Divine masculine right so I sat there and I said you know
53:27
what this little fear of criticism this fear that I have of making videos and putting myself out there about the
53:32
information that I'm learning I'm not gonna let it hold me back I gave you little bits here and there but now I'm
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gonna go all in and when I decided to go all in I started to say to myself I'm
53:42
gonna have celebrities come ask for help and that's exactly what started to happen celebrities come
53:47
for men to you know um you know issues when it comes down to digestion weight loss back pain but then a lot of life
53:54
coaching I put life coaching and life coaching they all go together if you like it or not right they have to they have to so then I started transforming
54:01
people's lives and then I got to um a grammy-nominated artist that had to
54:07
lose weight I got him down 35 pounds everybody thought was going to be impossible because he was a hip-hop artist and then he was dating Naomi
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Osaka so I applied a lot of this stuff to Naomi Osaka her Nutrition a lot of
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that stuff and she ends up winning the Australian Open in 2020 and then things start to take off and then I every time
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I made money one thing I did throughout my journey is I always made an account to make sure that I can go get hlc one
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hlc2 hlc3 I can pay for my hotel I can pay for my food and then I came to hlc2
54:39
in 2020 um at the end of November October and
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that's why I made Angie check and listen to this I'm sitting in in class there's like 35 of us we're doing our
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own thing and you know how you make us have to do our own hlc uh Health uh
54:56
appraisal and you know the paperwork that we have yeah for ourselves to write your own program you write yeah so
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my charts came back all in red so we're hanging out in class everybody's doing they gotta do and
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Angie's like all right we're gonna find someone someone you know if you want to participate to become the example of the
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client you know let us know and we're going to make you the example so we can apply all the knowledge and I'm like okay and uh just one of those in there
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Angie check is the best teacher I've ever had in my life she is the best I've ever had in my life
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well she's the best I've ever seen in my life so
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I mean you weren't there at the Czech conference in 2013 but we had a the
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ultimate Czech professional contest and Czech professionals from all over the world sent in an application
55:46
to show and describe what they had done with the Czech teachings so the goal was to award somebody the
55:53
ultimate check professional and I think we for the for the actual
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conference we had narrowed it down to the three three or four people and they each got a half hour presentation
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and of course it was the Czech Institute and my teaching so I
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thought well I want to see what people have been doing with this because that's the whole point I built the Institute was so that guys like you could go do
56:18
something with it because you know when you have as much knowledge as I do and you look at the world you go God you're
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in deep trouble right now you know yes so anyhow
56:30
I was so utterly Blown Away with Angie's presentation I mean it literally brought
56:37
tears to my eyes and she was making me laugh she was even making fun of me in the presentation which was even funnier
56:43
but you know um I'm just reiterating and and she's a
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master of time and she studies and she's always asking me questions for clarification so
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um I didn't know at the time she'd end up being my second wife that was not something I realized but
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um your assessment of her teaching skills is very accurate is what I'm saying yeah no she was she was amazing
57:12
and so and she's funny she's extremely funny she throws in her her teachings and she does it at the right moment so
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what she did is from the paperwork when she was able to tell me about my whole life without looking at the just to look
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at the questionnaire she told me about my whole life was the first time I told a group of people in
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front of me what happened to me in my life everybody was crying in class I was fighting from breaking down and just
57:40
losing it because it was the first time I felt like a mother archetype was making sure I was okay she's a strong
57:47
mother I was just blown away so my number one goal was when I come back to hlc3 I want to have better paperwork so
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I can show it off after that
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you know I was a client that week and then after I was a client you know everybody she gave me the you know how
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we have to take the test out I mean the paperwork at the end she handed me my paperwork and congratulated me but she
58:10
kept me for the last and everybody was crying we all came and did big group hug and and I'm sitting there and she looked
58:16
at me and she goes you remind me a lot of Paul with his work ethic and it's okay to rest and it's okay to take your
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time see it's coming at you again yeah it was coming at me so it was catching up to me what you said earlier I started
58:29
to notice that it's going to be complete I'm just a completely honest guy for policy yeah I went from being like
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10 body fat to like 15 body fat how
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um I eat the same way I train even harder now and then I started to see I was losing
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my body and then I started to see I started to lose my creativity I was losing my
58:53
creativity and then I lost my grandfather who's like a best friend to me and then
59:01
I lost my stepfather the next month and then I had hoc 3 coming up right and I
59:07
did not want to go to hlc3 because I didn't feel I felt embarrassed I said I
59:12
got fat I know this guy I know and it was the first time I knew I was going to come across you and I waited my whole life
59:18
for that and I was like I would be so embarrassed if I have to take a shirt off in front of this man right now and
59:24
he's in his 60s and he's jacked and now I'm looking like I was like I can't have that so I told myself I wasn't gonna go
59:31
and I and I and I was going to formulate an email it was the first time in my life that I was gonna avoid something
59:37
and not put myself through but like you said earlier it was also the first of my life that I didn't I couldn't build up
59:43
the courage until I get a phone call by Vinnie yeah Vinnie
59:49
used to work in our customer service department I went to hlc too with him I'm like what's up VIN how are you he's
59:54
I'm good he's like you uh you want a gift from Paul I'm like a gift what are you talking
1:00:01
about he's like well you want a painting I'm like whoa whoa I won that painting
1:00:06
now for like three months you were talking about how you were doing this painting and I'm like well whoever gets that
1:00:13
painting is one lucky person right like it sounds like an amazing painting that's coming out so when he told me how I got the painting I was like
1:00:20
oh crap he goes we were gonna ship it to you Nate but you're coming down next week so uh we'll just hold it on so I'm
1:00:26
like oh my God I have to go down now so next week I go into to hlc3 I show
1:00:33
off my paperwork to Angie and then I have a before and after picture and then um and then the next day you came up and
1:00:41
when he was coming up I was like all right this first time I'll meet this guy I can't wait first thing you said is who
1:00:46
the hell is the person who won this painting yeah but you know why I said that don't you I
1:00:53
do and you wrote me a letter you wrote me a four Page Letter that's why I asked yeah because that that letter
1:01:00
you need a professor to read that letter that letter used words that I I'm not even sure the dictionary has so yeah I I
1:01:06
have the I brought the painting with me here yeah you can show it yeah let's show this painting I I honestly for me
1:01:12
uh that was a a tough painting because
1:01:19
there was so much more that I wanted to do but I just had no time
1:01:24
I was extremely busy as I always am you know because I'm working on this new book series
1:01:31
and so what I did was I asked my soul to please
1:01:36
connect me to the person that the painting was ultimately for whoever it was that was going to win it
1:01:43
and I went into meditation in the sauna
1:01:48
and asked for the vision that I was supposed to paint which was ultimately for you
1:01:54
and as I sat in meditation all I saw was eyes everywhere
1:02:00
and I just kept seeing eyes and then I saw that they were structured and I said to my soul this looks like indra's net
1:02:07
and my soul said that's correct whoever you're the person you're painting this
1:02:13
for is a networker a networker
1:02:19
so because I understand what indra's net is very deeply and I've studied it extensively and it's actually talked
1:02:25
about a lot in my new book I said okay well I'm going to paint this and I originally was going to do it on
1:02:31
like a huge canvas because Xander's net is the universe it's you know beyond the
1:02:36
universe but I said I can only do this and you know there's 50 eyes on there yes there
1:02:42
are yep so I thought well I've got to do something fairly simple for this guy because I
1:02:48
don't have I've barely got time to wipe my ass right now so I was getting in here early in the
1:02:53
morning and working on that thing like 4 30 4 o'clock in the morning I'd have a cup of coffee you go to Espresso and
1:03:00
do my prayers and then I'd come sit and paint and then I'd have to go back to work and then I'd come in I just kept
1:03:06
coming in and out you know and then I'd try to take a little time on the weekend but I got to the point where I said okay
1:03:11
I can't keep going because if I finish this painting it's going to take me another 50 hours because there's you know a lot
1:03:18
in there that I couldn't paint because it's so detailed and that was what was driving me crazy is because every time I
1:03:25
would start adding to it I was like okay there's so much more how in the world am I going to finish this so I finally said
1:03:31
to my soul you tell me when it's done enough to give to the winner before
1:03:38
I brought it to you because I didn't know it was you I went into meditation and said to my
1:03:44
soul please connect me to the soul of this person so I can write them a letter about this
1:03:49
painting and so I just got connected to your soul and I said what would you like me
1:03:56
to write in this letter so that they know for sure that this painting's for them so that's how the letter got
1:04:03
written in the letter you said I know you recently just lost people you loved I'm like what the what what you you
1:04:10
mentioned I don't feel safe and because my whole life I've been trying to find home yeah and you want and you're and
1:04:17
you said um you just want to confirm to me that Earth is my home yeah and it was so much more info and then one of the
1:04:24
biggest things that stood out that is magical about this painting is that you said that you put
1:04:31
eyes on because I'm I I help more than one person so when I help one person yeah I'm helping more and I need to just
1:04:39
trust the process now the problem that I was having at a point in my life was
1:04:44
doubt kind of I was creeping in because I'm like I'm doing these videos and I'm still not growing the way I want to grow
1:04:51
because my focus and my intention was I got a girl I gotta grow a good girl and it wasn't one video at a time one person
1:04:58
at a time and as soon as I took that approach that was on June 8th I got that on June 28th I went viral on the
1:05:06
internet and all the years of hard work that I've put in just blew up all the old videos that I
1:05:12
put up all went up on on Tick Tock this app called Tick Tock that I never
1:05:18
thought I would ever be successful on because I don't dance I thought it was a just dancing app and as soon as that
1:05:25
happened everything just took off you should start dancing
1:05:30
so everything oh yeah yeah yeah with her yeah yeah we're actually talking about
1:05:35
taking dancing oh yeah this play don't don't worry about classes just put on
1:05:41
music that you like take five minutes to start your day and Shake It Out I do it all the time it feels freaking
1:05:48
great and Just Dance for God Dance For Life dance for all the people
1:05:54
that haven't danced remember you've probably heard me say it before there's five questions the Shaman's gonna ask
1:05:59
you if you come to them in trouble when did you stop enjoying being alone when did you stop singing
1:06:06
when you stopped dancing when did you lose your sense of magic mystery and awe for life
1:06:14
there's one more but those are the key questions right you look from this day
1:06:19
forward at every one of your patients when did you stop enjoying being alone
1:06:25
with yourself whatever answer they give you you write it down when did you stop dancing
1:06:31
write it down when they stop singing to sing write it down
1:06:37
when did you lose your sense for the magic mystery and awe of Life write it down and you'll see exactly when their
1:06:43
disease began or their illness or their pain because those are the periods where they
1:06:49
became disconnected from their own soul their own their own magic of their own being
1:06:56
and got caught in the world down and I felt my heart and my body say Okay Nate
1:07:02
now it's time to rest yeah but my ego was like we can't rest you in Los
1:07:08
Angeles we can't rest you see this you see the new actor who just contacted you or these new clients or you got this
1:07:15
opportunity you got to get on that and then I was going against what my
1:07:20
intuition was saying and what you were taught exactly
1:07:26
exactly so as soon as I start to go against it I start having consequences I
1:07:32
started getting clients that I did not want to work with and then I came home one day and I said okay you know what
1:07:39
I looked at my girlfriend and she's an actress in Los Angeles I said listen my soul wants to go home
1:07:46
I never went back home I never lived in New Jersey with money in my pocket I never lived in
1:07:53
New Jersey without living on the streets yeah but I started to notice that
1:07:59
more likes more money did not make me happy what made me happy was being able to
1:08:06
take my dad to lunch yeah that's not running from the cops anymore because you said another thing you can
1:08:12
lose your creativity yeah I had for the first time in my life Paul the first time in my entire life
1:08:18
I struggled without inspiration um and I would tell my girlfriend you know
1:08:24
what she'll say to me she'll be like find out how much Paul is let's pay him let's go to this
1:08:30
she was saying that one time she's like babe I don't care and sometimes she'll get like she'll she she got tired of
1:08:36
seeing me the way I was and she's like we gotta find a way you're gonna go work
1:08:42
with Paul and then one day I told her I said if I go to Paul I'm going as a victim Paul taught me what I need to do
1:08:49
already I'll be I'm I'm being victim right now I already know what he's gonna tell me be
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your own patient exactly so I was cheating Dr quiet there you go it
1:09:00
doesn't work very well and I was cheating Dr happiness slightly Dr happiness but Dr quiet and as soon you
1:09:06
know as soon as you cheat one doctor the other three have to compensate and then there's only so much conversation you're
1:09:11
gonna make and then pain comes in right Mr pain so I know that was a long answer